Each adult person has different types of emotional baggage.

If you have been lied to and/or cheated on, you may have a fear of deception.

You may show signs of being overly suspicious of others and guarded.

You expect the worst in most situations and push others away from you in order to avoid being hurt again.

If you were abandoned in any previous relationships, you may have a fear of abandonment.

You may show signs of being needy, insecure and/or disconnected from others.

You may even allow others to get away with things that hurt you in order to save the relationships and continue to attract those who are unavailable emotionally.

If you were emotionally abused in your previous relationships, you may have a fear of emotional abuse.

You may shows signs promiscuity and/or overly affectionate to strangers or people you may known for a short period of time.

You may lack confidence and/or appear to be anxious.

You may even be overly aggressive towards others, experience extreme outbursts and/or abuse others physically and/or verbally.

The quiz below will help you discover what type of baggage you may be dealing with.

It is easier to recognize your own personal baggage once you identify the emotion.

If you feel you are in need of assistance, please seek guidance from experts, professionals and/or your personal support system.

I encourage you to search deeply within yourself and be as honest as possible with the following questions.



Choose the letter that best describes your most frequent feeling or reaction to the situations listed below.

Although all questions may not have your exact response, please select the answer that appears most accurate.

1.If I send a text message to my significant other and I don’t get a response within the next hour, I…

A. Send several text messages asking why I am being ignored

B. Respond with an apology and offer to clarify my previous text

C. Immediately feel ignored and outraged because I feel my partner is occupied with someone else

2. I have finally decided to go on a date, while waiting at the restaurant for my dinner partner, he/she calls and tells me something has come up and he/she must reschedule the date. I…

A. Immediately offer to leave the restaurant to meet he/she somewhere else

B. Pretend as if it’s no big deal but internally I am crushed

C. Fly into an emotional rage and demand to know their whereabouts to meet them

3. When I feel my partner has wronged me, I normally react by…

A. Pretending as if I am not aware the wrong was done. Why should I start an argument?

B. Immediately become defensive, seek revenge and/or retaliate

C. Begin an investigation to find the root cause to the change in attitude

4. I have made arrangements for a special evening with my partner to spend some quality time but he/she tells me they are not in the mood. I…

A. Cry and isolate myself for days…My feelings are hurt but I try my best to find other ways to regain his/her attention

B. Have an emotional outburst… I am enraged and feel offended. Angrily I blurt out, “What you won’t do another person will!”

C. Start an argument because I automatically assume he/she is cheating

5. The word that most closely describes my current emotional state of mind is…

A. Distressed- suffering from anxiety, sorrow, or pain.

B. Resentful- feeling or expressing bitterness or annoyance at having been treated unfairly

C. Distrustful- unable or unwilling to trust; doubtful; suspicious

6. A word that describes a person I am least compatible with?

A. Erratic- not even or regular in pattern or movement; unpredictable.

B. Judgmental- having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.

C. Deceitful- guilty of or involving deceit; deceiving or misleading others.


Mostly A’s:

If most of your answers were the letter “A”, your emotional baggage is “Fear of Abandonment.”

Feelings or words associated with Fear of Abandonment:

clingy, needy, neglect, sadness, depression, discarded, disconnected, lonely, afraid, deprived, self harm, withdrawn, emptiness

Definition quoted from wikipedia.org:

Fear of abandonment is a phobic like fear of the emotional torment of being abandoned in a relationship.

People with abandonment anxiety have one of two insecure attachment styles: attachment anxiety or attachment avoidance. Attachment anxiety is characterized by a need for attention from others and fear that a partner is going to leave. Attachment avoidance is characterized by a persistent need to be self-reliant and fear of dependence.
Recognize things that may trigger your fears of abandonment. Analyze the situation and try to detach from your old feelings. Identify if you are reacting based off of old feelings or if your current feelings match the situation.

Seek support and guidance from experts, professionals and/or your personal support system.

Mostly B’s:

If most of your answers were the letter “B”, your emotional baggage is “Fear of Emotional Abuse.”

Feelings or words associated with emotional abuse:

misunderstood , mistreated, judged, belittled, rejected, anxious, withdrawn, aggressive, angry, overly friendly, obsessive behavior

Definition quoted from wikipedia.org:

Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Such abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, and abuse in the workplace.
Building confidence and getting in-tune with your spiritual side by knowing your likes and dislikes is a great start.

Seek support and guidance from experts, professionals and/or your personal support system.

Mostly C’s:

If most of your answers were the letter “C”, your emotional baggage is “Fear of Deception.”

Feelings or words associated with fear of deception:

distrust, lies, exaggeration, embarrassment, anger, punishment, disguise, secrets, distraction, skeptical, deceit, fraudulent, suspicious, guarded, avoidance

Definition quoted from wikipedia.org:

Deception is a major relational transgression that often leads to feelings of betrayal and distrust between relational partners. Deception violates relational rules and is considered to be a negative violation of expectations. Most people expect friends, relational partners, and even strangers to be truthful most of the time. If people expected most conversations to be untruthful, talking and communicating with others would require distraction and misdirection to acquire reliable information. A significant amount of deception occurs between romantic and relational partners.

Begin creating a purposeful life and work towards your own personal dreams and goals. Change your mindset of always expecting the worst. Always seek to improve self.

Seek support and guidance from experts, professionals and/or your personal support system.

Author’s Disclaimer:

The Emotional Baggage Quiz was created to help others become aware of their own emotional baggage.

It was written based off of my own personal experiences of dealing with similar and/or the same emotions.

This quiz should not be used to self diagnosis.

If you feel you are in need of help or assistance, please seek an expert or professional for assistance.

“Recognize the issue, admit there is an issue and then do something about the issue. “ Latorria Pier

Author's Bio: 

Latorria Pier is an author, a student at Christian Leaders Institute and founder of Special's Quality Care Centers. Her organization is a Christian based non- profit organization that works diligently through many volunteer efforts to empower women and families to initiate personal and social change. She is the author of “Turn My Life Around” Discovering Your Purpose; a 365 day devotional book that helps women discover their divine purpose. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring women to seek their divine purpose within their greatest pain. She is a frequent blogger with word press as her main selection. She also writes articles for thesetmagazine.com. Latorria believes that through her pain and sorrow, God has prepared her to share His word with others in a way that was made just for her. She allows her testimony to serve as an example of how God can turn a negative experience into something positive.