The spirit of femininity is generous, graceful, nurturing, supportive, sensitive, intuitive, and oriented towards love and care. Despite all of these wonderful attributes, feminine energy, especially as it pertains to sexuality, has been suppressed, condemned, and vilified on a global scale for thousands of years.

It is no wonder, then, that so often we associate shame, fear, and guilt with sex and sexuality. Through reawakening our feminine energy, we can learn to celebrate our femininity in all its forms and bring greater joy and intimacy into our lives and with ourselves.

Reintegrating our spiritual and sexual selves is an important first step in rediscovering our feminine self. Our culture’s separation of these two aspects may be an ill-conceived view and therefore counter to fostering well-being, health, and joy in our bodies, hearts, and spirits. When we bring conscious awareness to the integration of the sexual with the spiritual and the spiritual with the sexual, we return to a sense of wholeness within.

In order to allow healing to occur, we at TantraNova have developed a particular healing practice for the woman that provides her with a rediscovery of her sexual-spiritual connection by teaching her to clear blocks, residual memories, and views that no longer serve her. The word healing is used here in terms of letting go of what keeps her from being fully integrated and whole. She might get in touch with experiences from earlier times in her life that might trigger an emotional process.

Energetic blocks, memories, or unpleasant feelings that may have been stored as residual memories on the cellular level of the yoni or vaginal walls may be released so healing can occur and the experience of unity, joy, and harmony within herself can show up.

When Kristy came to TantraNova, she had been afflicted by gynecological complications such as recurring yeast infections for many years, which made intercourse extremely painful. She shared that she felt like a “broken” woman and wanted to explore ways in which she could express her sexual self despite her physical concerns.

She entered the TantraNova woman’s healing workshop feeling nervous, uptight, scared to open up, and afraid to trust. When it came to choosing a partner for the homework healing practice, she partnered with a most supportive and attentive man. She experienced him as patient and felt that she could slowly open up and begin to trust.

The most impactful experience of the healing ritual was that for the first time Kristy felt her male partner was simply present with and for her, absent of any agenda of his own or expectations of her. Being in this space of acceptance and presence, she could let go of the guilt and shame connected with her yoni and release her sadness and frustration with the pain she had been experiencing.

Following the workshop, Kristy felt a sense of aliveness, an inner groundedness, and a newfound confidence she had not had before. To her great surprise, a lot of her physical pelvic pain subsided along with the frequent headaches that had plagued her.

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Author's Bio: 

Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver are the authors of Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy. They have assisted more than ten thousand couples and singles in rekindling and expanding their love and relationships over the past decade.

Founders and directors of the TantraNova Institute in Chicago, they are internationally renowned workshop leaders, relationship and intimacy coaches, and certified Tantra Yoga teachers. Producers of the bestselling DVD Series Creating Intimacy & Love, they have also been featured on Showtime documentary series Sexual Healing and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show Starting Over.

Their retreats and workshops have been acclaimed throughout the USA, North America, and Australia. Several times a year, the couple leads programs at Esalen in Big Sur, California, and at Kripalu, Stockbridge, Massachusetts, where they are on the faculty. Elsbeth and Freddy Zental also lead couples retreats for CEOs and their spouses through the Young Presidents Organization (YPO) and have received the highest recognition for their work.