Every day you are choosing whether or not to let your feelings about something someone said or did eat you up— perhaps literally!
I had a massage client who was a mess of spasmed muscles. I intuitively asked her if she was having problems with a woman. She told me about her terrible battle with her daughter. I gave her a few kind words and continued working. She later mentioned her recent case of irritable bowel syndrome. Without thinking or hesitation I blurted out, “So she is irritating the crap out of you, is she?”
Her reaction was that of someone startled, on the verge of a realization. I assured her that consciousness can be quite literal. She was quiet for some time as I continued my work. Then she mentioned a recent hysterectomy.

“Woman! I gasped. “You have ripped out the body parts she came from! How far are you willing to let things go in this direction?”

She said no more as she “digested” the impact of her thoughts and words.

There is a deeper meaning to forgiveness. It is seeing love in the face of hate, fear or resentment. It is replacing every ugly thought that comes up because doing so is truly the only healthy, satisfying thing to do.
 Anything less will harm us every day for the rest of our lives!

We can learn to let go with love. We can be grateful for and forgiving of these people, these “mirrors” in our lives without the need to indulge their behaviors. We can remain in a loving space anywhere, anytime, and with anyone, as soon as we first learn to love and forgive ourselves!

My gift to you today is this:
We just don’t need the kind of toxicity that is produced by resentment.
Live the magic of forgiveness. It is truly one of the most powerful and mystical secrets of life!
How important is this?
You will either succeed and be forever happy or fail and be forever miserable!

Important note:
You can forgive someone and still choose to let them continue to grow in a different space from you — as long as you’ve let go of the anger and resentment.

About forty years ago I took a series of Dale Carnegie Courses. I learned a whole lot from this wonderful man’s philosophies. His book was “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” His purpose was not to teach how to manipulate people but rather how to win their hearts and get their enthusiastic cooperation. This book was a truly authentic and sincere masterpiece on developing the qualities that make life work for you. He explained how to make dealing harmoniously with others a living possibility.

The main themes were:
A - The world is hungering for appreciation.
B - We must live life with enthusiasm.

I mentioned in another post that our host of problems in life are the direct result of having been criticized, criticizing others and the fear of being criticized. Be clear:

Nothing can encourage, promote happiness and peace, alleviate fears and make people smile, like appreciation. Flattery won’t do it, but the sincere ability to see the good in others will. We must lavish appreciation on all those we love, comfort, and care about, and on those seeking the courage to change.

Love, forgiveness and compassion are always the answer, and giving appreciation is a most powerful way to share these blessings.

Try this method and watch how life can be even more beautiful—instantly! This will bring a whole new light to all your relationships — And please be a wise Carnegie disciple. Do it enthusiastically!

Author's Bio: 

Todd Puntolillo is a life-long metaphysician. As a speaker, he has delivered his message of love and healing on television and radio. As a writer, he has written columns for national, international and local publications. He gives seminars, classes, does public speaking engagements and personal coaching. Todd has spent sixty years in pursuit of an understanding of the metaphysical laws that underwrite our existence. His remarkably clear and profound approach to this massive undertaking renders his books a must for anyone who questions his place and purpose in this immense realm we call life.
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