If someone is in a position where they feel powerless, they could end up coming to the conclusion that it’s because of what is taking place in their life. For example, they might have lost their job, been through a breakup, or have a friend that lacks boundaries and is controlling.

Therefore, if it wasn’t for what is taking place, there would be no reason for them to feel this way. Naturally, as what has taken place will have had a big impact on them, it will seem to be the cause.

A Pattern

Along with what is currently going on for them, they may see that this is not the first time that they have felt this way. After looking back on their life, they could see that they have felt this way on numerous other occasions.

They may see that when they went through a previous breakup or lost their job, for instance, they felt just as powerless. Due to how often they have felt this way, they could believe that they are powerless.

One Level

Most likely, they are not going to want to feel this way and will want to have a felt sense of personal power. What this will do is allow them to experience a setback without them falling into a deep hole.

As this is the case, it will seem as though what takes place externally has complete control over how they feel. Subsequently, there will be moments when they are totally helpless and unable to do anything.

Another level

However, although this may appear to be the truth, what if there is far more to this? What if they don’t just randomly end up having experiences where they feel powerless and are playing a part in what takes place?

At this point, they could say that this is not the case as they don’t want to experience life in this way. Obviously, they are not going to want to experience life in this way but what they will need to think about is that they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind.

Two Parts

This other, hidden part of them is having an impact on what they do and don’t experience. Yet, without this understanding, it will be perfectly normal for them to typically see themselves as passive observers of their reality.

Taking this into account, if they continually have experiences where they feel powerless, there is a strong chance that this is how they feel at a deeper level. Unless this changes, then, they will continue to unconsciously co-create situations where they feel powerless.


If they can accept this, they might wonder why they wouldn’t be aware of how they already feel and why they would feel this way. When it comes to the former, their brain will have kept this feeling, along with others, out of their conscious awareness to protect them.

What this will have done is allowed them to keep it together and function. It would then have stopped them from being aware of a part of themselves to help them, not to harm them.

Back In Time

This may show that there was a time in their life when they were undermined in both major and minor ways. Perhaps their early years were anything but nurturing and this was a time when they were deprived of the love that they needed.

If so, as they were powerless and totally dependent at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have been able to do anything about what was going on. This was then a time when they didn’t simply believe that they were powerless; they were powerless.

One Option

As they were unable to change what was going on or to find another home, how they felt would have automatically been repressed by their brain. This wouldn’t have changed what was going on but this would have stopped them from being overwhelmed with pain.

The pain that was removed from their conscious awareness would then have been laid down in their body. Many, many years will have passed since this stage of their life but they will still carry most if not all of this pain.

Repeating The past

One reason why they would end up unconsciously re-creating scenarios where they feel powerless is that they are still looking for the love that they missed out on as a child. In addition to carrying pain, they will also carry unmet developmental needs.

The trouble is that as they will unconsciously create scenarios where their needs are not being met, such as when they lose their job or experience a breakup, they won’t feel loved. But, even if this didn’t take place, it will be too late for them to receive the love that they missed out on during their formative years.


If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, true self and inner awareness. With over three thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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