You may have heard experts saying that couples usually feel happier in their life then singles. Indeed, studies show that in spite of the escalating number of divorces and separations, 80% of young adults still say they are looking forward to a good marriage (or living together), a satisfying long-term relationship and sharing life together. Research conducted in different countries, including the USA and European countries, has shown that good marriage makes the partners happier, healthier and financially richer. If you agree with such statistics and wholeheartedly desire a relationship, why are you still alone?

WHY COUPLES ARE USUALLY HAPPIER THAN SINGLES?

The reasons are many:

1. They give support to each other;
2. They share issues and problems together;
3. They have someone “to count on” in difficult times. This reduces whichever stress they might be under (as compared with singles);
4. They attend to each other’s health and therefore take better care of themselves;
5. When both partners work they can usually afford a better life in terms of expenses, vacations and the like (which enables them to share new experiences together, revitalizes their bond and also reduces stress).
6. Married couples (or those living together) often have more “family” (of each partner), as well as a broader circle of friends. This by itself often gives them an added level of comfort and support.

If there are so many advantages to living together, the question then becomes:

1. Why are there so many who would have loved to have a partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship, but aren’t successful in having a relationship?

2. Most important of all: why are you still single, if you sincerely wish to have a relationship?

SELF-AWARENESS IS THE KEY TO UNDERSTANDING HOW YOU MIGHT HAVE SABOTAGED YOUR ATTEMPTS AT RELATIONSHIPS

If you have been unsuccessful in developing a satisfying, long-term relationship in spite of craving for it might mean, that you have not taken the time to understand the ways in which you might be sabotaging your attempts at having a bond. And until you do, you will be failing time and again. Failing time and again might mean that:

* You might have never realized there is something in you which hinders your attempts, or

* You might have been so busy finding a partner or struggling to stay in your current relationship that you have never allowed yourself to take the time to look inwards and become aware of the ways in which you shoot yourself in the foot.

If you genuinely wish to find a partner with whom to share your life together, you should therefore understand the ways in which you might have sabotaged your attempts until now and become empowered to make the necessary changes which will enable you to develop and satisfying bond.

Author's Bio: 

Doron Gil, Ph.D., is a Self-Awareness and Relationships Expert, with 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counsellor and consultant. Dr. Gil has taught thousands of students, wrote numerous articles on the subject and the author of: "The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship”: http://amzn.to/eAmMmH