Resolutions for Divorcing Moms in 2010

Divorcing Moms face unique challenges that few people can really understand. Here is some useful advice that can get the year off to a wonderful start!
Everywhere we turn, someone is talking about the New Year.

Here’s the challenge: In some important ways, a year is a fuzzy unit of time. Yes, we all know it is 365 days, but the truth is that we don’t live our lives a year at a time. Let’s be honest. Most of us only understand the concept of the year in the rearview mirror of life: holiday or birthday time. In those festive moments, most of us marvel and wonder where the year went.

Whether or not we make them, resolutions remain a hot topic. When we make resolutions based on the year, we can set ourselves up for disappointment because we have no real concept of what the year means.

According to a Wall Street Journal article, a whopping 81% of people who make resolutions will abandon them within two years.

How can divorcing moms make 2010 a great year and achieve amazing things? Change your units of time. Stop thinking of the year and focus on hours and minutes.

Focus on the 8760 hours that make up this year.
Better yet, make the most of this year’s 525,600 minutes.
Hours and minutes are units of time that make sense to us in the day-to-day reality of our lives.

We live our lives a minute or an hour at a time. But, we underestimate the value of the minute or the hour and we squander minutes or hours all the time. We waste time in pity or shame. We waste an hour in complaining about things over which we have no control.
This year, we can change our lives a minute at a time. No matter how anxious or stressed we might be feeling, we can focus our attention for a single minute.

We can all find 20 minutes in our day to devote to a worthy resolution” whether it is meditation, prayer, reading or exercise, no one is too busy for 20 minutes.

If we commit 20 minutes per day, five days per week, that’s a 100 minutes per week not even two hours of television.
Multiplied over the year that’s 5200 minutes or about 87 hours!

If you want to take a fresh perspective on 2010, break it down into the hours and minutes in which you live. Look at your habits and actions. Pay attention to how you invest your time. If you dislike the return on the investment of your time, make a different choice. Focus on the minutes. You can change anything about your life, one minute at a time.
3 Resilient Moms Resolutions

Even if you’ve already made your resolutions, here are three more that merit your consideration.

#1 TO TREAT MYSELF WITH COMPASSION
We Resilient Moms are loving nurtures of our families and our friends. We will willingly sacrifice sleep, time, money to assist those we love. That’s great and part of what makes us who we are.
But, here’s a question: Are we as compassionate with ourselves as we are with others? Too often, the answer is no. We speak harshly to ourselves and focus on what we haven’t done, rather than congratulating ourselves on the progress we have made. We neglect ourselves and rarely enjoy our own gifts with ourselves. Treating ourselves with compassion is not an indulgence. It is a necessity. It’s worth repeating: Your kids need you now more than ever. But, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t be there for them. Extend compassion in your own direction and everyone wins.

#2 TO TAKE MY HEALTH AS SERIOUSLY AS THAT OF MY KIDS
Where our kids are concerned, we pay close attention sniffles, coughs, and every ache they mention. We never skip their medical or dental appointments. So when was the last time you went to the doctor? Have you had a check-up? What about a cholesterol screening? When was the last time you visited your ob-gyn? Your good health is one of your greatest assets, so take it seriously.

#3 TO LEARN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN URGENT AND IMPORTANT AND ACT ACCORDINGLY
The key to negotiating major life change is knowing the difference between what’s urgent and what’s important.

Urgent matters may be time-sensitive but may lack lasting significance. Other people may have strong feelings about a situation, which may give it an emotional charge that makes it seem pressing.

Knowing what’s important keeps you on purpose in your life. Handle important matters during the most productive part of your day. Check Facebook, email or return personal phone calls, address after you’ve addressed what’s important.
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