Think it, Believe it, Speak it

Think it, Believe it, Speak it

I think the most important thing we can do in life is accept responsibility for how it turns out. It doesn’t matter what your faith is, at the end of the day, life is what you make of it.

And invariably, it’s the thoughts that we give life to by the power of our tongue that change things for us, negatively and positively. As an example, a woman at work asked me if I would try and predict her future for her. My mother is very intuitive and so am I, but as a Christian, I don’t dabble in trying to see the future. So I explained that it would do her far more good to ‘create’ her own future for herself. Don’t allow someone else to put thoughts in her head of what they thought her future would hold. Think about it, hold it, cherish it, speak it out and bring it to life. This and this alone works. Thinking about what might have been, or waiting for someone else to determine your path doesn’t work.

I know from many personal experiences that we definitely control things by what comes out of our mouth, and when you think about it, what’s coming out of your mouth is really only what you’re holding in your thoughts. At one point in my life, I was convinced that a love
would leave me. I kept asking for reassurance, and asking …. and asking. He left. I was my own walking self-fulfilling prophecy. In addition to me constantly speaking my own insecurities out, I had treated him very poorly. Hmmmm, what did I expect to happen? That despite me literally creating my own reality, he would turn out to be superhuman and resist everything I was throwing at him? It didn’t happen and it doesn’t happen. If you feel like you’re not good enough to be with someone, then you’re going to be speaking and acting that way, and changing what is really just a myth into a fact.

It’s interesting to me now that I coach people, and coach them successfully. Once upon a time I felt that anything and everything would go wrong, from finances to relationships. And they all did. I went to a psychologist and drove myself mad trying to understand what was wrong with me. I was the queen of self-analysis. I’m not saying that’s bad, but self-analysis is only helpful when you look at what you’ve been speaking and believing into your life, recognize the good and the bad, and cut out the bad. Things are going to happen that you can’t control, but if your life isn’t going where you want it, it’s more than likely due to your internal monologue. Keep telling yourself “it won’t happen”, “they can’t love me that much” and so on and so forth, and you’ll live your own insecurities. Then the insecurities build on themselves because we then justify our negative thinking by “I knew it would turn out like that!” when we don’t get that promotion or somebody leaves us.

There’s nothing nicer to be around than a confident man or woman. Not an obnoxious person, but someone with a strong sense of self who understands that the quality of their life is directly proportionate to the good they put into it. The Bible says “the power of life and death is in the tongue.” Whether your Christian or not, that cannot be disputed. One of the golden tenets of success is to treat everyone well, and seek to do good. You create an environment of good energy which allows good things to flourish and prosper in your own life. Also, when you focus on making others happier and feeling good about themselves, you’re automatically filling your own life with verbal positives. If you’re not confident enough to speak out wonderful things about your own life, start with someone elses. Your soul will respond and be warmed, and you’ll find it easier to speak that good into your own life.

Everyone has the ability to rise above their circumstance and create the life they want. For me, it comes back to God every time, but I don’t just stand around and wait for Him to make everything better. If I’m blessed enough that I’m cognizant of my own ability to influence my own life, He’s done his part, the rest is up to me. He gives us the tools, but they’re useless if we don’t put them into action.

And just a final word to women and men who are in relationships, but aren’t particularly happy. To people who are content to settle. Don’t! While you’re filling the spot that your true life partner should be filling, there’s no room for the right person to gain a foothold in your life. A vast number of people talk to me about not being able to meet that special person and it turns out they’ve been dating the wrong person for the last however many years. I’ve been guilty of that, as recently as the last few years, but now I just don’t get it because it makes no sense. Let go. Let the other one go to be free to find the one they’re meant to be with. If two people are meant to be together, they’ll be together. Sometimes it takes a breakup and dating other people before you realize the one you want to be with is the one you left. Well, that’s ok. If you’re meant to be together, on some level, they one you left is waiting for you to come to your senses and is willing to forgive. But let go of the wrong relationships or nothing will change. Plus, deliberately dating someone because you’re afraid there’s nobody else out there just feeds insecurity, which is negative energy. Don’t be afraid to be single and be your own best friend.

I hope this helps somebody. It’s based on truth and experience. And it doesn’t matter who you are, who loves you or who doesn’t, you can have the life you truly desire. Just watch your thoughts and words.

God Bless,

Fiona Richardnnn