Be honest with yourself for just a moment. No one else matters right now. Let’s talk about what you really want. This is not about what you are responsible for. This is not about what they want you to do. Just for this moment, don’t concern yourself about what should be. Sit with the idea that you could have it. Yes, something floated into your thoughts and you have stopped reading this long enough to push that thought away.

Have you noticed that you push it away every time that particular dream floats into your mind? It’s an unconscious reflex. Oh, you have plenty of really good reasons to push back. It won’t work. You’ve tried before. They would be upset. You don’t deserve it. It can’t happen because it hasn’t happened before. You have real responsibilities. You don’t have time. It would be selfish of you to do that. It’s scary to think about it. Oh, and the most dangerous way to kill your dream – you’re planning to say yes, just not today. You’ll get back to it one day. As soon as X, Y and Z align with A, B, and C. What if you weren’t afraid to stand up and ask for what you want? What if you stood up in your own power and purpose and declared that vision for your life. What if you actually got what you asked for? Who would you be if you really believed you deserved to make it happen?

That probably feels very selfish to you. I realized it’s difficult to think of yourself when you have managed to busy yourself for years thinking only of what others need and want from you. Between me and you, I know the resentment is building in your heart. It’s no secret the pace is wearing you out. You’re exhausted. You’re feeling unappreciated and disrespected.

Well, what are you going to do about it? I suggest you stand up. No, this isn’t about telling someone off or giving them a piece of your mind. The hard truth is they treat you that way because you allow it. So let’s deal with you first. Let’s talk about why you are the first person you must say yes to. You are the one that you must serve first. Yes, you keep thinking it’s selfish. Well, you’ve been doing it the other way for so long. Is that way working for you? How much more effective would you be if you allowed yourself to have the type of joy that nourishes you and energizes you?

Say yes to yourself first. Take care of yourself. Feed your dreams. Every reason you list as a “good reason” not do move forward is actually a reason why you must move forward. Just for this moment, imagine what your most powerful purposeful self would do despite the good reasons not to do it. Imagine how it would feel to let go of the control and let go of the fear and let go of the doubt and let go of the worry and just stand up in your purpose and power.

When you allow your most powerful purposeful self to show up, you begin to see answers where there were no solutions. You begin to feel courage where there was only fear. You start surprising yourself with a deep sense of wisdom that you didn’t even remember was within you. You get to a point where you stop putting energy into the doubt you feel and just focus on what step to take next. You can choose to keep doing things in fear or you can decide right now to say yes. Let your most powerful purposeful self stand up, step up, and show you exactly what to do in this next moment.

Author's Bio: 

Author: Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach
Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™ is a Speaker and Coach for highly creative problems solvers and entrepreneurs who struggle with procrastination, doubts, fears, over-thinking, good excuses, and stubbornness. Adrienne knows exactly how to confidentially coach Helpers who get overwhelmed being there for everyone else, but are uncomfortable being helped. The Soul Power Coach™ has practical tools for the accomplished, respected, workaholic feeling isolated and frustrated because the people around them are behaving badly, or they just want life to be more fun. Clients come to the Soul Power Coach™ needing more focus, organization, consistency, and courage to move even the most impossible obstacles out of the way and feel more unspeakable joy. Adrienne has several ways to work herself out of a job by showing clients how to access their own Soul Power immediately and more consistently. Take the 30 Second Soul Power Challenge & get $275 of do-it-yourself coaching tools free at