(This article is the second one of a series on seeing the Beloved in Everyone).

Do you have to BELIEVE that everyone you come across with is a potential life partner? Or best friend? Or lover, beloved in order for this practice to work?

Well, YES. But also NO. In some way, this is a "fake it 'til you make it" practice. Because OF COURSE you don't fully believe that everyone in the workshop room is potential lover of yours. Not if you ask and respond with your mind, with your thinking/assessing/judging mind.

But if it were really, 100% true? Then what? How would you act in that room? How would you feel about yourself? Would you:

  • Feel more relaxed? Less anxious about making a connection with someone?
  • Stop worrying that all the good ones are taken and know that "yours" is right around the corner?
  • Feel exuberant, ecstatic, gleeful that everyone you meet in that space was an opportunity for something interesting to occur?
  • Feel confident to initiate a conversation, ask for what you want?
    Say "no" with ease? And "yes" with ease?

The thing is that we are all invited to Be Love in every moment; we are "charged" with it. But something stops us. We worry about being judged, we're afraid people aren't going to like us, we are afraid of being honest, we get scared, etc.

When you're surrounded by love (which this practice brings right to you), you become who you truly are....because there is no reason to be anybody else! No need to impress, to say the right thing, to pretend to be someone you're not.

So again...

I invite you to continue practicing seeing the beloved in everyone. When you jump to judgment or assessment of someone else, you are immediately taken out of love. This will immediately block you from getting the love you want in your life.

Fake it till you make it....and you WILL MAKE IT. ​

Do this for an entire day and then let me know what you notice​! I'd love to hear from you! ​

Author's Bio: 

Robyn Vogel, MA, LMHC is a psychotherapist, certified sex coach sex educator, and creator of Come Back To Love, Inc®. Robyn marries traditional psychological principles with spiritual tantric philosophy and practice. She teaches couples and individuals how to master the skills of intimacy and come back to love. Those that are struggling in relationship, feeling lost around love, and deeply craving purposeful and passionate connection gain much insight and healing in their work with Robyn.

For 15 years she’s been teaching and practicing tantra as a foundational meditation practice that grounds her clients from within, removes obstacles to loving deeply and teaches all aspects of healthy sustainable relationship.

Robyn facilitates a bi-monthly tantra workshop in the Boston area, leads weekend retreats and tantra vacations in tropical places. In 2015, she co-led Helping Couples Connect, a clinical course for therapists with Charlie Verge and has recently been recognized as an expert in her field by the Boston Globe. She is also the author of upcoming book: The Power of Puja: An Intimate Journey to the Heart.