As a Tantric Sexuality Educator, one of the fundamental methods that we teach for prolonging sexual pleasure is the art of semen retention. But what is semen retention and why would one bother learning it, much less incorporating it into everyday sexuality?
Semen Retention has several different purposes, the ultimate being the cultivation of male multiple whole body orgasms, as well as the conservation of life-giving, anti-aging hormones secreted in a mans body during sexual arousal. Very few people are aware that orgasm and ejaculation are actually 2 separate functions of the nervous system and can be differentiated to the point where men are able to have a full orgasmic experience with no emission. Dr. Charles Buchar states ” Orgasm is a peak emotional and physical experience (relating to the parasympathetic nervous system), whereas ejaculation is simply a reflex action occurring at the lower portion of the spinal cord and resulting in ejection of semen.”

By using physical semen retention techniques or “holds”, a man is able to relax into the sensation of orgasm, without the fear of losing his essence, thus prolonging the orgasmic experience and paving the way for multiple orgasms. The more these techniques are practiced, the easier and more natural it becomes for a man to orgasm without ejaculation. At a certain point, most men actually prefer this type of orgasm as it lasts significantly longer, and has the potential to be more pleasurable, intense, and downright delicious! Most of our male students have immediately identified with the sense of physical depletion that usually follows an ejaculatory orgasm. Men rolling over and falling asleep after lovemaking is a socially accepted norm. In his book “The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity” Daniel Reid sheds some light on this by stating – ‘ Semen essence is the fuel that drives male sexuality. It is the source not only of physical capacity for sex, but also of sexual interest and emotional affection for the opposite gender.’ Thus -’ A man who maintains consistently high levels of testosterone, sperm, semen, and other male essences by practicing ejaculatory control will experience an overwhelming enhancement in his love and affection for his woman. He will also gain the capacity to act upon that loving urge over and over again.’ Good news for us women!

Aside from cultivating multiple orgasms and enriching physical health, another advantage of practicing semen retention is the ability to prolong the experience of sexual union. The average time of penetration until ejaculation is between 2-7 minutes. Wow! Most men that I encounter have a sincere desire to pleasure their women for long periods of time, but the urge to ejaculate can be so overwhelming that they are unable to resist. By both partners knowing and using semen retention techniques together, the experience of sexual union can last for as long as you both desire. Extending the period of actual penetration allows for a depth of emotional connection and spiritual communion that is just not possible to achieve in 10 minutes or less.When a man is willing to retain his semen essence for long periods of time, it sends the powerful message that he is just as invested in his partners orgasm, as he is his own.

In my opinion, a man's willingness to cultivate his sexual health and endurance by practicing the art of semen retention is an un-equivocal demonstration of his love and commitment to the health and happiness of our connection.

To learn 5 highly effective, fun, and easy methods of semen retention, and learn how to become a ‘multi-orgasmic man’ please join us at Tantric Arts of Love for a class or session in your area.

Author's Bio: 

Devi Ward is the Co-Founder of Tantric Arts of Love, the only school for Tantric Sex offering qualified instruction in the secret Tibetan Five Element Sexual Teachings. Devi is a Certified Tantric Healer, Certified Dakini, and Advanced Tantric Sexuality Educator. She is a Featured Tantric Expert at and Devi has had extensive training in Non-Violent Communication since 2005 and was an active member of KauaiNVC from 2008-2011. She offers Tantric Communication Coaching for singles and couples based on the principles of NVC (

Devi has been a Sensual Movement Coach and Sacred Erotic Dance Instructor since 2005. She is the Founder of Feminine Emergence, a Movement-Healing modality that uses Tantric Movement and Sensual Dance to produce physical, emotional, and spiritual healing in relationship to sexual and sensual self-expression. Devi has worked successfully with many women to support and encourage the full emergence of their “Sensual Selves”.

Devi is the author of numerous articles about Tantra, sexuality and healing.

She is currently writing her first book about Tantric Sexual Cultivation for Women.

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