Sensual massage is an excellent way to enhance sexual arousal and erotic pleasure. It can be a very enjoyable part of lovemaking as a way to intimately connect and lead into more in-depth foreplay. Massage may be utilized as a sexual therapy, that is, as a means of stimulating the libido – getting you both in the mood and familiar with one another’s bodies and areas of sensitivity. It can also help men address issues of premature ejaculation, as he is able to relax the musculature of his pelvis and thus prolong arousal and extend his ability to enjoy physical pleasure without the impulse to climax too soon. Setting the tone with a romantic ambiance may be a good idea, choosing soft sexy music, lighting candles and incense. Also turning off your phones so you don’t get interrupted is highly recommended.

Sensual massage typically focuses on our erogenous zones to evoke erotic sensations and increase sexual excitement. There are individual variations as to which areas of the man’s body are most sensitive, most obvious being the genital region. However there are also non-specific zones that include the sides and back of the neck, the inner arms, the axilla (armpit area), sides of the torso, inner thighs, feet, back and buttocks. Make sure every area of the body is at least touched, literally from your head down to your toes. It’s nourishing and beneficial to direct your love and positive energy to the entire body, not just erogenous zones. It helps build healthy channels for proper energy flow to distribute the chi (vital life-force energy), eliminate blocks, and sustain a more holistic connection between you.

You don’t necessarily need to be an experienced massage therapist in order to offer a pleasurable massage to your partner. It’s good to either begin or end with an exceptionally light touch, slowly running the tips of your fingers over his skin. This can be therapeutic as well to stimulate and support a healthy lymphatic system and can feel absolutely incredible to be gently caressed in this way. When you demonstrate this type of soft touch, he may be more inclined to reciprocate the gesture at some point. You can remain silent, or take this time to communicate with your partner, letting him know what you like as well as asking what feels good to him during this special time of focused attention.

He may also enjoy a deep tissue rub down, so it’s a good idea to have high-quality massage oil handy for easy gliding over his body. Sensual Massage & Bodyglide is seriously the most excellent 2-in-1 massage & lubricant I have every tried. It’s extremely effective and leaves no oily residue at all! It’s easiest to have him lie on his belly and straddle his lower back for optimum reach. Using your palms and with firm pressure, offer long-drawn-out strokes aside the spine and along the muscular tissue of the back and shoulders. Then slowly knead the muscles with all of your fingers and palms, even perhaps your forearms and elbow. Leaning forward allowing your nipples to graze his skin can be terrifically arousing. Also, you can lay face down, holding on to his shoulders and pull your body up across his back.

By extending the massage to other body parts, such as his arms, hands & fingers, as well as his legs and feet, the excitement and anticipation builds. The level of awareness in his body increases while his stress and tension decreases. The last area you should focus on is of course the penis, as it is the most sensitive of erogenous zones in the male body. The foreskin, which includes the ridged band and the corona around the head, is highly sensitive and may elicit strong sensations from the slightest touch. Also, the scrotum is very sensitive to light touching and stroking. When the time is right, you may proceed with direct stimulation, such as hand-stroking or fellatio, and ultimately climbing on top and initiating intercourse.

This act of giving sensual massage to your partner is an excellent way to build trust and appreciation for one another, and sharing new ways of intimacy, and deepening your relationship.

Author's Bio: 

Allura Grace has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.

Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.

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