Sex and the Single Girl ~ How Long Should I Wait?

As a Relationship Confidant, I often hear that women wonder how long they should wait before having sex. My answer would depend on what the woman wants out of the relationship. If she is looking for a solid committed relationship and she just met the guy I would answer very differently than if she is a girl interested in casual sex who just wants to have fun. The first step I think women should do is to locate their desires.

Society has finally accepted the fact that women have desires and decisions they are more than capable of handling with or without public approval. Women no longer wish to follow any stereo-typing of barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen. The talents and creativity they possess are more than visible in their careers and appreciated in the marketplace more now than ever before. So why not also recognize her desires for sexual creativity and longings even if on a casual basis?

Some women do not want the entanglements of an emotional connection, so engaging in trysts can be a satisfying choice. But as a Heart Protector of Women I would just want to be sure it is the woman's choice and not a case of her being manipulated into a sexual encounter that she may regret.

As a Guy Spy into the Male Mind, understand that a man's perspective on this will also vary depending on his level of involvement. He may be the type who will oblige
the woman in her fantasy, but he would never want to marry or commit to a gal like that. So girls, knowing what you want ahead of time will alleviate unforeseen drama down the road.

If you're a woman who wants a committed relationship then I would say hold off on sex with Mr. Potential until he has made it clear that he belongs to you (not that you belong to him). If he is giving you his heart and his actions line up with his words, you can feel free to enjoy the intimacy you desire without the dreaded morning-after awkwardness.

If you get intimate before you are certain that he is convinced you are the one, then you have put yourself in an uncomfortable place. Having sex with spark intense hormones to flood your brain and cause you to feel connected with him whether you really know him or not. This can be a recipe for disaster, drama and depression. Allowing the man the opportunity to win you over first will make him feel like you are worth his time, attention and affections. If the woman bypasses the male's need to win her heart, she opens herself up to being used and abused. He will likely toss her aside when he is done.

If you want a committed man, allow yourself to be the princess in the tower. Give him time to be the knight in shining armor. Look for his actions to show that he will do whatever it takes to make you happy. If he won't make the effort for that, let him go. So how long should you wait? In this case, long enough for him to prove he loves you, respects you and is worthy of intimacy with you.