How do we deal with keeping it quiet in the bedroom when we co-habitat with roommates, children or house guests? It can be extremely awkward listening to a family member or friend scream and moan as they enjoy a wild sexual escapade in the next room. It can be even more embarrassing to be that unruly couple producing audible substantiation during sex. Sometimes when we’re caught up in the heat of the moment, it’s hard to keep quiet – especially when we’re used to freely expressing our ecstatic bliss during love-making.

We should not have to compromise our sex-lives just because we’re sharing space with others. Sustaining your romance and intimate connection with your partner is essential for maintaining passion and harmony in the home. It can be more uncomfortable to have to contend with marital discord than to witness an overt expression of sexual attraction – even if it causes others to snicker and roll their eyes. Those around us, especially our children and relatives will appreciate observing genuine love and affection rather than conflict and tension. After all, they just want us to be happy – and what could make us happier than great sex?

However, a little consideration goes a long ways. It’s not only respectful to be discreet with our personal interactions; it can also be a fun and challenging game to engage in. There are ways to controllably silence your insatiable pursuit for pleasure. Of course we can bring out the duct tape or ball-in-your-mouth restraints, however implementing more of a meditative deep breathing practice during foreplay and lovemaking can actually be intensely satisfying. We can become even more present with one another and consciously aware of our physical sensations when we focus on deep breathing and remaining absolutely silent throughout the entire intimate experience.

It can be a form of tantric sex to connect in such a reverent and disciplined way. When we slow down, maintain eye contact and synchronize our breathing into a rhythmic pace, we can soulfully unite on a higher level. By continuing to sustain balance between your extreme physical sensations and heightened energetic connection, we can take this quiet copulation to a whole new realm of a blissful state of being.

It may be distracting at times to enjoy meditative sex when there are other people in the house making noise and moving about. “Quickies” may be a bit easier to carry out when we have certain limitations with time and space. Sometimes getting right to the point can be fun and exciting, especially when it’s spontaneous and passionate. Finding an unusual private place to have sex is always a thrill, such as in the closet, shed or storage room. And there’s always the notion of saving water by showering together. It can be enjoyable to lather each other’s bodies and slide around while the sound of the running water may help diffuse some of the sexual play going on. Be sure to have some water-resistant Gel Sensual on hand for great sex in the shower!

You can always play loud music to help conceal the banging of the headboard and your uncontrollable fervent expressions. Everyone in the house may know what you’re up to, but at least they don’t have to listen to every lustful moan and groan coming from your bedroom! Ultimately, don’t sweat it too much because whomever you may live with, or temporarily share space with will conclude in their heads, “Boy, they sure are loud, but it’s great that they’re still so passionate with one another.”

Author's Bio: 

Allura Joy has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing valuable resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.

Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.

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