Should I tell my parents I am a lesbian? Whether it is going to be a mistake to tell them now will depend on how caring and empathetic they are, how modern their way of thinking, how much they love you and understand you, how much they are peace loving or whether they are the sort to start arguments over the slightest thing and much more. But eventually you will have to tell them or they will work it out or find out some other way, which is worse.

Look at how old you are now. If you are a teenager and you are attracted to women you might feel you are a lesbian, but maybe this is just a phase or maybe you are bisexual, so is it really wise to blurt out such information to anyone else when you are not yet sure of your sexuality for yourself?

If you are older and you are in a loving relationship with a female then you may feel that you cannot avoid sharing this information with them.After all, the time might be right for them to meet your other half, and to get to know them in the same way as they would if they were parents to a daughter who was dating or with a man.

Your parents also have a right to know that you will probably never get married to or live with a man or have a baby with a man. Many parents live in the hope and dream that these things will happen with a daughter, even if she is a reclusive type who is not into relationships. It is part of being a parent.

Once you have told them you can breath a sigh of relief that you have shared this knowledge wit them. That they can take some time to get their head around this news if they need it. But you have got over the worst of it.
If they then respond in a difficult way this is not your fault.

You must remember too that with some older people they have never had a chance to really understand their own sexuality or they know it but have kept it secret. I have known of a lot of cases where a parent was showing shock and horror at the thought that their precious daughter was bisexual or gay yet they themselves were secretly bisexual or gay, they had never been living in the right circumstances or felt brave enough to share it, and it would have been much more difficult years ago.

Sometimes parents are not so much horrified by the news itself but by the rest that goes with it such as never having a son in low, never having a normal family life, the rest of the family knowing and so on.This can be because they are concerned for you that you will have a tough time or it can be because they do not want embarrassment or to feel different. None of which is your problem.

Please, if you are considering sharing this information with your parents, do tell them. If now is not the right time then tell them when it is, but trying to keep it a secret forever will not work.


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Beth Shepherd psychic, therapist and relationship expert offering 40+ years of experience, tried tested and trusted by experts, professionals, newspapers and magazines.