It is early and the house is quiet. I do not hear the sound of hard snores coming from my husband of so many years. There isn’t the sound of a small snoring coming from my children. It is just me. Has always been so since my teenage years. When I am ask the question regarding, my status I am often given awwww, looks. When this happens, I want to proclaim to them it is well with me.

“No, no, I am good,” I stated this smilingly.

The churches Mother’s pet my hand; gently nodding their heads.

"Umm humm." One stated with compassion in her eyes.

"Bless you, baby," Another whispers.

“God is gonna see about you. You hear? You just keep holding on, sweetie.” They turned walking away muttering powerfully in their heavenly tongues.

Now, I am about to get real here. I never discuss nor have I ever taught a class on being single and or authored books with tips on how to get a man. That just isn’t me. God has not called me to do that-- and I am glad. I honestly don’t like talking about it. When I can be talking about something else—what you may ask? Hum, are you happy? Where you are in life? Anything. Uh, oh. I think I’ve just got some frowns right there. That is ok I am accustom to those looks; as I have always been hailed, as being “something strange.”

I have attended some single’s conferences; (when I wanted to attend ‘The Power Belongs to You!” class) and it has never failed that somewhere along the line someone somehow stopped fighting temptations. I’ve often wondered, how one person manages to sustain and another do not; especially, when they are receiving the same teaching? I am in no wise downing anyone. That is not what this note is about--it just makes me wonder.

If teaching states that: if you’ve a certain weakness try to avoid things that will so easily beguile you. Is it not obvious that something negative will happen? For years it was thought maybe I was strange. Other view being single as sometime of course singled out: The Purpose! I have had quite an experience making my vision (dream) come to pass. It was and still is a journey. Sometimes smooth, often times rocky, certainly lonely, and joyful was my experience. I’ve always wanted to “be somebody,” at a young age I’ve tried to make sound decisions. Like being willing to abstain until marriage to have my family. My plan was as follows:

1. Graduate from College
2. Six figures income
3. Infinite car
4. Get married
5. Have kids
6. Be on television

Check off the list:
College Degree? Check. That was as far as I could go. The unexpected happened. I got sick for many years. What hellacious years they were! I know pain physically, mentally, and emotionally. Having endured this for so many years, I have grown sensitive to those who are hurting around me. Sometimes it can become overwhelming. Yet, God who is faithful will put no more on us than we can bare. I’ve always believed this. Real Talk: Singled Out: The purpose.

This is not a sad story. I am not alone nor am I lonely. I was singled out for a purpose. Had I not gone through my experience with Catamenial Pneumothorax (a women lung collapses after 24-48 hours), isolation, seven chest tubes and lung surgery; I wouldn’t be posting this note to you. I wouldn’t have authored several books; I would not be writing and performing inspirational stage productions. There are just something’s a woman has to do on her own.

Do you remember Hannah, in the Bible? She was singled out for purpose! Her husband gave her the best of all he had. Yet, he could not reach the deepest need inside of her. So, she arose up! Don't get discouraged! Give out, but don't give up! Woo hoo! Hannah had a plan—and if you give God a plan; He will work with it! In the end she birthed her purpose. As did I--- and so can you!

Author's Bio: 

Vanessa Richardson is an author, poet, and playwright. Vanessa has written several stage productions and have been blessed to perform them at various venues. Her stage productions includes: Someone To Love Me, Why Do Bad Things Happens To Good People? Lord, I Don't Understand, and The Fullness Of Time.

Vanessa wrote her freshman Nonfiction inspirational novel titled, The Certain Ones. A spiritual impacting novel that inspires her readers to know that not everyone are called into greatness. Fact: Many can not handle the process that goes along with becoming great. Only the certain ones, who endures; can obtain destined greatness.She is currently working on the second installment of her, Inspirational Suspense Love Series titled, Love Lifted Me.

"When a man's ways please the LORD, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him." (Proverbs 16:7)