When we get upset with what someone else does or someone is upset with us, we need to choose our words carefully. We need to step back and look at the whole situation and determine the importance of it. We need to be sure what we say is what we want them to hear and understand before we speak those words. When we speak out in anger, we can hurt others and hurt ourselves.

Relationships can be created and they can broken with just a single word. If we aren’t careful our words can make a bad situation worse. If we aren’t careful we can turn someone away who is need. If we aren’t careful we can create chaos when we need to remain calm. It is easy to blow up at others when we feel they are doing wrong. But the harder action to take is to stay calm during the storm.

James 1:19-20 “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.”

Why is it we are so quick to say what is on our minds not thinking about how it will hurt another person? Why is it we can’t control our tongue at times and we have to speak out against another? We really need to be sure we think about what comes out of our mouths before we speak. We really need to be sure we know the entire situation before we jump to conclusions.

Getting our opinion out to someone else is not always the best answer. Sometimes we need to listen. Sometimes we need to be a friend who does not judge or say hurtful things to others. We need to strive to be like God and be slow to anger and quick to listen. We need to put aside our desire to talk and remember our words are sometimes better left unsaid.

We may believe we have the words the person needs to hear; however, we really need to pray about what we say so we are sure what words we use are the words God wants us to say. So many times people speak in haste and regret what they said. So many times people are quick to get angry and feel the need to give their opinion.

We can’t really control what others say and do; however, we can be sure we say the right words and use the words God wants us to use. We can control how we react and what words we use. We have to make a good practice to show restraint when we want to speak out. We need to hold back on giving our opinions when we need to keep quiet.

When we learn to be slow to anger and quick to listen, God will speak to our hearts and give us the right words to say. When we are willing to be the better person and not react in anger, we will set the right example for others doing what God wants us to do. When we learn to control our emotions and allow God to take control of how we live and what we say, we will create a habit of doing what we should do and be ready to make a difference.

Author's Bio: 

Frances Lucas has lived in the Birmingham, Alabama area for the past 40 years. She is a firm believer in leading by example and what she shares comes from her experience in life having to set her own goals and make things happen in her life…not depending on anyone else. She can help you, your team members and your employees to realize their purpose in life, learn their strengths and begin to develop their strengths.

She attended Corporate Coach University where she obtained an Advanced Certified Corporate Coach degree. Frances also has a bachelor‘s degree in Business Management and a masters in Human Resources. She has facilitated classes for large and small groups, created and organized self-improvement and employee development programs, classes, and work books. She enjoys coaching others one-on-one or in groups. Frances is a professional discipleship coach certified through Blueprint for Life Institute and is dedicating her life to helping others find their God-given purpose in life.

She has found her passion in life and wants to share her passion by helping others find theirs!

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