Standing up - You’re on Your Own after Being Dumped

Getting over being dumped is no walk in the park. When you break up you feel like your world has come crushing down on you and you think you can’t live. Cheer up! If I have survived through a break up, so will you! The choice is yours; you can remain stuck in your rut, or you can make it easier on yourself. It happens to all of us at one point or another in our lives. How we then get through this messy situation will have either a negative or positive impact on our future.

When a relationship fails, a rush of negative feelings seems to take over your life. You can’t think straight and you might even forget that you have to eat… You feel desperate, lonely, and hopeless and you spend hours thinking ‘why?’ and ‘what if?’ This is the worst time to have such negative feelings because they will stop you from moving on. You need to start thinking positive and believe that you are special and being sorry for yourself is only a waste of precious time.

You may be wishing that your partner comes back, maybe if he sees how much you are suffering. Reality check – this rarely happens and in seeing you go half crazy over the break up he will only reason that he did the right thing in leaving you. If he cared about you, and did not want to see you hurt, he would not have left at all. He would have been thinking of making you feel happy, nurtured and loved. Did he do that? Obviously not! He left you to pick up the pieces of your broken heart. Now you may either give up to the sadness you feel, or react with doing what is healthy for you to do and get over him.

At this point in your life, you need to take care of yourself more than ever. You need to rediscover the child within you; pamper yourself and take a break so you get your confidence back up where it was.

If a child fell and got hurt, what would you tell him? Do you tell him to stay in bed and cry himself to sleep? Of course not! You would lovingly tell the child to forget what happened and you would help them to get better.

If a child stops eating out of sadness, would you let him become all skin and bones or would you make sure he’s being treated well and eating well. The answer is obvious. This stands for you too. Healthy eating will actually make you feel better.

Get over being dumped by that loser and so this is what you have to do… Pamper yourself, take a break maybe a vacation that will give you time to think, rediscover your true self and get over this present stage of sadness. Why not buy yourself something new? Just anything that makes you special and feminine. Maybe you may change your look, try a new sexy hairstyle or new hair color. Have a massage to relax …When you look great and you like what you see in the woman, you will automatically feel better.

Now we come to the don’ts section. Don’t get stuck at home, shutting out friends and family who care for you. Don’t give up and certainly don’t give in. It’s hard, but at the end you will come out of it, a stronger new woman. You can make yourself move on; it hurts but be strong and think of something positive that will help you move forward. Set a goal in your future; something to look forward to and work for.

Slowly you will start seeing the blue sky behind the grey dull clouds, and you will start feeling great without much effort. Then look back and think I got over being dumped! And look what I have accomplished; I didn’t give up. Instead I moved on and I became this all new and better woman.