Still Single? Lucky You!

Are you all alone and hating it? You lucky dog! I know, I know, you are used to hearing everyone sympathize with you, pity you, or tell you what men are looking for and how to change yourself. Sorry, but if that’s what you’re looking for, you are reading the wrong article. You won’t find any of that here. If you are looking for encouragement, better yet, empowerment, read on.

So, you don’t like your present situation. First of all, I want you to imagine what kind of relationship you have dreamed to have all of your life. If you have never thought about what you’d really like, now could not be a better time to start. Ok, in this dream of yours, what does your partner look like? Even more importantly, how does he treat you? What are the things you find yourself doing with him? Raising a family? Running a business together? Taking long walks and talking for hours? Perhaps something totally different. How do you feel now that you are imagining this? Totally different than when you think about your current situation, I’m sure.

Now, who’s to say that you can’t have that relationship, or feel that way? The only person standing in your way is you. And the best part is, you are in the perfect situation to make that dream a reality. Being single does have its down sides, but it also is the perfect time in your life to figure yourself out and what you want.

I know, I know, you have tried everything, and you still are on your own. Thank goodness for that! You still have time to come to know your true self and save yourself from a horrible relationship. You might be asking, how could I possibly know how you feel anyways? Friend, I can. I was single for a long time too. But let me tell you, after figuring a few things out, I was far from miserable. Once I understood myself, Mr. Right literally fell into my lap. Let me share two secrets that can help.

1. You will marry someone a lot more suitable if you know who you are before hand.

This is prime time to figure out who you are and what you want in life. You are on your own. Right now the only opinion that matters is yours. So, take time exploring and discovering yourself. Figure out what things you enjoy most in life. More importantly, discover what your purpose is in life, and what values you hold dear. Once you get started, you will quickly realize how much fun it is doing these things. And finding yourself helps create the perfect filter for finding your Mr. Right and attracting him to you.

When I was first introduced to my husband, I didn’t give him a second thought. When we met again over a year later, I knew very quickly that he was perfect for me. Now we are happily married. What changed? My knowledge and perception of myself. Now is the time to take a journey of self discovery. You will be so glad that you did.

2. You will enrich your marriage by what you do now while you’re single.

I had a roommate who hated being single. She so desperately wanted that special man in her life. So, she put life on hold and waited. No need for college. She was going to eventually be a stay at home mom. She worked at the same retail shop for years on end with minimal pay raises. As she continued to wait, she got more depressed and turned to food. Instead of getting Mr. Right, she got depressed and plump. As the years passed, she became less and less desirable as a partner.

Don’t let that be you! Search your heart for the other dreams and life purposes you have, and continue working towards them. Your future partner will love you all the more for doing so because you will be a much better catch, and happier with yourself in the meantime.

Remember, being single is not a curse. Everyone is single at one time or another, so you are not weird or lesser than. You have the privilege to be better prepared when Mr. Right comes along, and have fun while doing it. Still single? Lucky for you!