A woman wrote to me asking me how she could get a man to fall in love with her. This is a man she barely knows. This kind of thinking really scares me.  It's fine to meet a man and be attracted and intrigued, but to move from "Nice to meet you," immediately to "Choose me, love me, marry me," is a recipe for disaster. Almost everyone we meet doesn't work out, no matter how strong the attraction is.

Stop Looking For Instant Love! by dating and relationship expert Kara Oh
When you barely know a man, it's important to keep your rational mind in gear. And don't forget to use the brakes!

If this is something you tend to do I recommend you take a look at how unhealthy this thinking is. Step back and look at the bigger picture. HE IS A STRANGER. How can you want a total stranger to fall in love with you or want to marry you? It should take months of getting acquainted to get to that point. Yes, there are those rare couples who met and immediately knew and stay happily married forever. But it's rare.

Unfortunately, romance novels and romantic movies perpetuate this idea that love is instant and everything can be put together with a great big bow tied on it in 90 minutes. That's not how life works.

Making mental plans for the future with a total stranger is the kind of thinking that gets women in trouble. You get emotionally invested WAY too soon and then when it doesn't work out, which most beginnings don't, you have to go through the heartbreak...over a stranger. You need to be careful of your heart. It's a precious thing to give your heart to another. Don't hand it over so easily. Be cautious, careful and thoughtful. And you're less likely to chase a man off because you become needy and clingy. No one can protect your heart except you.

So now that you have stepped back, with the intention of taking it slow, one step at a time instead of jumping off the cliff, unaware if there are rocks beneath the surface, here are some tips on how to get a man to fall for you. To begin with, if you follow the Secrets in Men Made Easy you will be different than any woman he's ever met. Here's why.

Men Made Easy will teach you why men fall for you because you've learned that the following behavior will cause a man to be excited to know you better, win his heart, and cause him to fall in love with you:. You need to develop your Feminine Grace, which includes the following:

  1. Be beautiful in how you are.
  2. Be happy, cheerful and positive.
  3. Don't complain about anything that happened in your past or what is going on currently. Complaining, about anything, is always 'ugly.'
  4. Don't lose control of your emotions.
  5. Remind him regularly what you appreciate about him.
  6. Let him take care of you, to be your hero. Always thank him and let him know how happy he makes you for how he takes care of you.
  7. Don't have sex until you have a conversation where you BOTH agree to be exclusing, not dating or having sex with anyone else. If you do, you'll probably destroy his interest, plus, you will feel bad for having sex with a stranger who doesn't want to see you again.
  8. Don't try to figure out if he's going to hurt you some day. Just get to know him, who he is, how he looks at life, how fun he is, how considerate and respectful, etc. Basically, don't "interview" him for the job of your boyfriend.
  9. Remember that he wants to be with a woman who makes him feel good and who is enjoyable to be with.

You may think this is a lot of work on your part. But look at each item on that list and notice how it will make you feel to behave that way. Everything I teach is about how you can be happier...with you, your life and with a man. The goal in understanding men is so you can know what will cause him to fall in love with you, to cherish you and never want to risk losing you. But you have to do your part to make that a reality. You lead and he will follow. Demanding any of that will only chase him away. You'll learn how to create an amazing relationship when you embrace your Feminine Grace and use the Secrets about men to create the love you crave.

From my heart to yours,

Kara Oh, Author of Men Made Easy and other relationship books
Men Made Easy by Kara Oh

The Single Most Important Skill You’ll Need

If you’ve ever wondered what the single most important skill is for creating a deeply loving, passionate relationship is, I would tell you, without a doubt – it’s the ability to use the power you already have, as a woman, over any man you want to influence.

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Author's Bio: 

Kara Oh,

relationship coach, best-selling author and public speaker, offers
a full range of products and services to assist women and men with
everything they need to create fulfilling relationships that are filled with
love, playfulness, romance and passion. Whether you are single and looking
for the right partner, involved and frustrated, or married and struggling
with everything from an affair to falling out of love, her unique resources
offer everything that you need to enjoy the kind of relationship you

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