The notion of a perfect marriage or relationship is as sweet as a romantic love song, but the truth is that there is no such thing. Couples argue, disagree, and partners often find themselves stuck in a boring, lackluster routine. It's normal to experience a lag in a relationship, especially a long term relationship, but that doesn't mean you and your partner have to live with a dull day to day routine. Here are a few suggestions to break out of the daily rut with your significant other and spice things up.

Schedule Time for Yourself

In a relationship, it's crucial to have time for yourself. That means that you and your partner need to have time to do your own thing. It's essential to have "me" time when you can pursue your hobbies, activities, and interests without your partner. Spending time apart doing your own thing will make you more appreciative of the time you have together.

Do Something New Together

When you find your relationship in a social rut, get with your spouse or partner, and try something new. Try taking on something that neither of you has ever done before but have always wanted to try. If you both are into cooking shows, try taking a cooking class together. If you enjoy reading, consider taking a writing course as a couple and writing your own book or short story together.

Plan a Retreat or Vacation Together

If your location plays a part in your boring routine, shake things up a bit by taking a vacation or going on an outing. Getting away from the same old sights and sounds can do wonders for relationships and your love life. It's a good idea to go someplace where you have never been to before. Outdoor outings can be even more exciting than the routine of staying in a motel and visiting the local bars and restaurants. Try camping and spending time with mother nature in the great outdoors. It doesn't matter where you go or stay just as long as it's something new and different for you and your spouse.

Have More Sex

If you're in a sexual rut, have more sex. Having more sex, even when it's planned, can do wonders to get you out of dull routine. If you need to add a little spice to your sex life, try something new: different locations, adult sex toys, or different rooms in your home.

When you've been with your man or woman for years, it's normal for things to get a little slow and routine from time to time. The key to a lasting and exciting relationship is communication. Speak with your spouse about how to spice things and how to get out of the day to day rut.

Author's Bio: 

Dixie Somers is a freelance writer who loves to write for business, health, and women’s interests. She lives in Arizona with her husband and three beautiful daughters.