Summer's Romantic Advantage
Written by Rachel Moheban, LCSW
Welcome to summer! Okay, so it’s hot. We all know that. Make yourself some lemonade and USE the heat to your romantic advantage. Get creative – what did you enjoy, way-back-when, when you had more unstructured time available to you? So you need a jump start on this one? Well, here are some suggestions:
• Go for a walk in the park as it starts to cool off in the afte
oon/evening. C’mon, clown around and go for a ride on the swings!
- Watch a gorgeous sunset together.
- Go out for ice cream (Okay, fro-yo for the health-conscious).
- Dine outside for a refreshing change of pace.
• If you’re nature types, go camping next to a nice, calm lake.
But true, it isn’t all the “lazy days”. Summer also has its stresses. If you have children, this can be a time of high pressure with a lot of random logistic holes that need to be covered by busy parents. This is the reality of the situation, and aside from easing the chaos by planning well, it’s just the nature of the season. Don’t let that get you down!
Before you and your partner get back together at the end of the day, take a breather. Neither of you deserve a blow-up because you’re over-stressed. Some ideas:
- Call for a fifteen-minute quiet session in your home. Isolate fighting children from each other if necessary.
- Treat everyone to a cool, frozen treat to get the gang in a good mood, even if you predict the bribed-bliss will be temporary.
- If you haven’t done some decent planning to deal with summer logistics, take some time out and prioritize taking care of this. You’ll thank yourselves.
Summer’s too big a chunk of the year for you to allow it to float away!
And of course, being able to sleep without flannel pajamas and a big, heavy comforter is also a romantic advantage of summer…
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About the Author
Rachel Moheban currently has a private practice in New York City and specializes in individual and couples therapy, and is the founder of TheREPLACE Relationship Suite. She has her Masters Degree in Social Work from New York University and was trained at the Ackerman Institute for the Family and at the Training Institute for Mental Health in marital and group counseling.
In addition to regular therapeutic practices, Moheban believes that couples benefit even more from using a variety of resources including the effective combination of psycho-education, relationship coaching and counseling, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches combined are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. Using this formula, Moheban designed and created “The Ultimate Relationship Resolution Program.”
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