Surviving the Break up of a Relationship
Written by Ryan D'eath
So you’ve been dumped, most of us have been there, so you’re not alone. This is the first article, of several, that will provide the most effective methods of surviving a break up, and help you either get on with your life, or eventually get your ex back.
- For starters, and I know most break up articles say this, but you MUST cut off contact with the ex. Do not call them, text them, meet up with them “just as friends”; don’t even check their Facebook profile to see what they’re up to! Delete photos of them, previous messages, contact details etc. (alternatively you can box it all up and give it to a friend to hide).
- Focus on negative aspects of your ex; did they have an annoying laugh or a funny finger, anything negative about them, focus on it!
- Go out with friends...a lot! Try to minimise the amount of time you are alone. Try to go out to public places with them; meeting new people ALWAYS helps, even if it’s just a little bit. You never know you may meet someone else, and I know that’s not what you want to here right now, but trust me, dating another person does help. Believe it or not, it will also increase your chances of getting your ex back too (but that’s for another article). You don’t have to sleep with anyone else, just keep it harmless dates; maybe try online flirting etc.
- Exercise! Exercising makes us feel good about ourselves and will help rebuild your confidence. Also try buying some new clothes, getting a different haircut, changing styles etc. All these will help rebuilding you back to yourself again!
- Something which always helped me a lot recovering from a break up was to keep telling myself that the whole universe is so immensely huge that in comparison my problem is so miniscule in the grand scheme of things. There could be another person, in another solar system in the exact same situation as me. For some reason this gave me comfort.
- Visualise yourself with other partners, fantasise about them. Or even fantasise about what you would do if you ruled the world or had infinite money. It’s important you do not fantasise about your ex at all.
Follow these tips and you will definitely notice a decrease in the pain you feel after a few weeks!
Good luck
Ryan
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