"You must take personal responsibility. You can notice the circumstances, the seasons nor the wind does change, only you yourself can change "~ Jim Rohn

The most widespread myth in modern times is that we firmly believe that we have a right to a great life - that somehow, somewhere, someone (certainly not us) enriches our lives with continual happiness, exciting career, wonderful options and a relaxed family time as well as blissful personal relationships that only exist because we exist. You can do this only if you are actively working for these goals.

Because the truth is that there is only one person is responsible for the quality of your life.

That person is YOU.

If you want to be successful and achieve your goals, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in your life. This includes your level of performance, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, your state of health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings - everything!

Most of us have been conditioned, however, that we blame anyone, anything outside of ourselves for the things in our lives that are not good. We blame our parents, our teachers, our boss, the media, our employees, our partners, the weather, politics or economics. Does blaming change anything in your life? Absolutely nothing, because you always have to remember that only your thoughts are responsible for your reality. And therefore the only thing you need to do, if you want to change something, take responsibility. There is no other way.

I found the following simple formula by Jack Canfield:

E + R= O
Event + Response = Outcome
The idea is that every outcome is determined by the event and the response. It does not matter whether it is success or failure, wealth or poverty, health or sickness, fun or frustration. If you think the result is not good, there are only two possibilities:

First You can give the event the blame for the lack of results.

In other words, you can blame everybody: your spouse, your children, society, your boss, your colleagues, the crisis of politics or the lack of support. These factors are there, no doubt, but if this were the deciding factor never anyone would be successful.

Bill Gates would never have founded Microsoft; Daniel Vettel never won the Grand Prix. Steve Jobs never would have put Apple in place. They certainly have had the same circumstances and become successful anyway. You can join them, if you take responsibility.

Blaming others you set yourself limits. Assigning guilt means that you give up or do not dare to succeed. Many people leave the so-called limiting factors behind them, so it cannot be the factors that limit you. The reasons on the outside are not keeping you away from success, it is always YOU. You limit yourself, because when you put your thoughts and barriers up, you fall into the defending behavior. We defend ourselves even with self-destructive habits (like smoking and drinking) with inexcusable logic.

Analyze your behavior and make a list of positive and negative habits. The next step is to capture the thoughts, which create the negative habits. Only when you change these thoughts, you can reach success.

Next Step is following

Author's Bio: 

Angela Schulz-Henke is a success and business coach. She loves to see her clients thrive and live a fulfilled life.
Her mentor is John Assaraf and for marketing Chris Cardell.
She just founded a Business Coaching Company with 2 other ladies to coach small companies and people who want to set up their own business.