The first diet I went on (keyword “first” out of many) was calorie counting with Weight Watchers(R). They don’t like to use the word diet, but let’s face it, they are giving you numerical parameters to follow. When calorie counting later got such a bad rap, because it really didn’t solve our problems long term, they switched over to points, which was a fancy name for the grouping of calories. Don’t get me wrong. Weight Watchers(R) has worked for some women and is a positive idea.

However, for emotional eaters dieting restrictions and plans are not effective. This is because diets don’t get to the Heart of the matter and they keep showing us answers outside of ourselves. Until our heart needs are addressed, the emotional eating will continue to override any diet plan. A diet may work for 4-8 months, yet after a while the triggers come back and we are telling ourselves for the umpteenth time, “I will go back on my diet Monday.”

The reason I personally do not like any diet regimen for emotional eaters is two-fold. First, because they keep us obsessively watching our food and weight. Emotional eaters want freedom from this; not more obsession. Second, because you have to follow an externally prescribed regimen for life or the results can’t last. Ugh. The regimen doesn’t put you in touch with what your body really needs. Furthermore, regimens don’t get us to the mind-body-spirit connection we deeply crave. This leaves us starving emotionally.

Here is the truth:

When diets give us a set amount of food we can have, this can lead to binging. The truth is that our body’s needs change based on numerous factors, both internal and external. When our needs for more food increase and the diet doesn’t allow for that, we can easily end up in a guilt-ridden binge and feel disheartened. Yet, we may have had a valid need for more.

Then, when we’ve “already blown it”, we blow it some more. Then, we tell ourselves we can start again on Monday. Have you been there?

Our bodies, our hearts and our nutritional needs are not stationary facts. They shift and are dependent upon what is going on. Once we learn how to 1) address our true physical needs and 2) how to climate false emotional hunger, then we lose weight without an inch of dieting. You know that tag that says, “ONE SIZE FITS ALL”. This is false! While this is true for machines, this couldn’t be farther from the truth for women! We need options that are connected to our unique needs and lifestyle. This is where true success is hidden.

Author's Bio: 

Laurel Inman is a certified life coach, coach trainer and the author of Eating With Heart: The 5 Steps to Freedom From Emotional Eating. You may find more of Laurel’s work at: