The 5 Keys to Sexual Wholeness

Wholeness is defined as an undivided or unbroken completeness or totality with nothing wanting. Because our sexual energy is the life force that creates us and animates us in our bodies, I believe sexual wholeness encompasses all of who we are. When we free our sexual energy and use it to feed all aspects of our lives, we gain full access to our aliveness, our passion, our joy, and an endless stream of creative energy.

The 5 Keys to Sexual Wholeness

1. Access and clear sexual wounding and shame

First, you must clear out what no longer serves you. Old patterns, stuck emotions, shadow material, and past wounding stay lodged in your body until you find ways to consciously access and move them out. As you clear out the backlog, you create an internal spaciousness that is fertile ground for new creation as well as an opportunity to consciously welcome a new way of being.

2. Become aware of your energy body

Tuning in to the more subtle aspects of your existence will open up a whole new realm of sensation and sensitivity to your internal reality. As you become aware of your energy, you create the opportunity to address and clear patterns, emotions, and stuck energy as they arise rather than unconsciously storing them. As you become more adept at moving things along, you may notice that it your awareness of your energy and its movement becomes more and more finely attuned.

3. Engage consciously with your energy
Learning to manage the energy you are becoming attuned to is important, so that you can keep it flowing and moving inside you. Practices like "grounding" and "circulating" will upgrade your energy system, enabling you to generate more physical and mental energy all the time. You may also begin to feel more joy, more passion, and more aliveness.

4. Express yourself with integrity

As you gain mastery with your internal practices, external expression will naturally follow. The unconstrained expression of sexual life force energy can be overwhelming and even damaging to others, and it's imperative to bring integrity and consciousness to it. Mastery of your sexual energy opens up many possibilities for connection and intimacy with others that is not necessarily of a sexual nature, but that can feed your soul.

5. Practice, practice, practice

Sexual wholeness is an ongoing practice rather than a static achievement. Gaining and using practices over a lifetime will ensure an ongoing refinement of your natural state of harmony and balance. The more you practice, the more you learn about yourself and this will naturally lead to deeply satisfying relationships with others.

It has been my experience that the first and most important relationship is with self. As we cultivate sexual wholeness, we have an opportunity to draw to us partnerships and relationships of all kinds that reflect our own inner states of being.

Sexual wholeness is much more than a concept for me. Having taken an arduous journey from sexually damaged to sexually whole, it's become my reality, my passion, my wisdom, and my teaching. I'm so grateful to embody this state of wholeness, so that I may be an example of what is possible… and I wish this quality of wholeness for all those who seek it.