I have a tool to suggest. I call it the Complete Yes. And you can use this as a filter with everything you do in your life and work. So if it not a complete yes, it’s a NO. When we tell ourselves the truth about what isn’t a complete yes, decision-making about your commitments becomes very easy.

A complete yes has no story behind it. No intellectualizing. No guilt. No agony. No inner rumblings. No yeah, buts. No doing it to please others. No doing it to look good or be liked. No inner critic tapping on our shoulder. It’s just YES. Period. And if it’s not that, completely, it’s a NO.

And the easiest way to say no is with the fewest number of words. As soon as you start talking too much, those who request things of us start finding holes in our story. A professional, polite no sounds something like this:

Thank you so much for the offer/opportunity/thinking of me, but I already have a commitment so I’m going to say no. That’s it. It does the job. Is friendly. Respectful. And, what commitment do you have? To YOURSELF. To what reeeally matters in your life. And you don’t need to get into this with anyone.

More people will respect you just from the energy you bring to this. They may not fully get why, but they will feel it from you. You will be dong more of what you really want. And your integrity will be fully intact without the need to runaround cleaning up stories that aren’t entirely true. Therefore, no guilt. No cobwebs. No regret. Just the truth from your authentic self. Now that is what I call standing firmly in your own shoes. And as they say, Rock On!

Author's Bio: 

Barb Garrison is a highly sought-after Life & Career Coach and “Job-You-Love” expert who is a stand for people to be who they really are and do the work in the world that they are truly meant to. She helps success-driven professionals, who are just going through the motions, design a career that will make them leap out of bed every day. To find your own Internal Groove, visit www.internalgroove.com or www.jobilovetoolkit.com to receive your F-R-E-E Job I Love Toolkit to begin to answer some of your biggest career questions.