If you always want others to think good of you, if you always depend on other people's opinions, then this approach will create many and many problems in your life. Look what is going on: when you are accepted by others, when you are respected by others, when you are appreciated, when you are recognized, then you are OK, you are happy, you are good and your life becomes luminous and full, right?

And if you are not accepted by others, then you try to change your behavior, change your attitude, change your life style, change your way of thinking and change the way of feeling… In other words, you have to change yourself and you have to change your nature. And the result?

A real deep problem stats arising in this situation: what is accepted by others becomes awarded and put outside and what is not accepted by others becomes repressed and pushed inside. In this way you create a real nightmare by splitting yourself into two parts. One part is what is accepted by others. And the other part is what is not accepted by others.

But you are intrinsically the organic whole. Do you realize that you are intended by existence to be the whole? You are intended by existence to be integrated. You are intended by existence to be crystallized. You are intended by existence to be undivided. Do you think that the others are responsible for this split? No. You are the only creator of this split of you.

Why to waste your time, your energy and your life by reaching, knocking and inviting people who cannot be reached by you due to many and many reasons? Why not to find people who are comfortable for you, the ones who see this world like you do? Why not to find people who are sensitive like you? Why not to find people who are in affinity with you, who breathe life in the same rhythm as you and who feel life like you do?

I would even add more: you are so relying on other people's opinions because you don’t accept yourself and you don’t respect your uniqueness. And realize that the only root of this non-acceptance originates in not knowing yourself. Remember, I am not talking about your personality or about your ego. Today you are respected by society… But time passes… Everything changes in the world… The other people’s opinions, appreciations and respect can be easily taken away. But did you find your treasure that could not be taken away, that was intrinsically yours? Did you find your treasure that was not influenced by others, that did not rely on others, that was always filled by the eternal dance of existence? I am talking about your individuality, about your uniqueness, about your center whatever you can call this divine phenomenon...

Start from finding the authentic yourself. Finding yourself brings such freedom, such blissfulness, such relief… Being yourself as you are, being overflowing with the energy of life brings such relaxation, such peace, contentment and inner power. And this is not power to dominate over others. This is the power of finding your interdependence with the Universe, the power of true realization of your life meaning. You need just a bit of watchfulness to start the pilgrimage of finding yourself. Mediate over this…

Author's Bio: 

Oleg Moskvine is the founder of the Dancing Physicist System ™ and the author of several books: "The Sun Freezes Without You™", "The Dancing Physicist System: When Life Dances With You™". He is the Vise-President of cosmeceutical company, Master of Science (MSc) in Theoretical Physics, entrepreneur.