Discussing the difficult topic of forgiveness is never easy.

For some, not forgiving someone or a past situation has been pent up for many years.

For others, there is someone who can not forgive them for something they said or did either consciously or unconsciously.

Or, it may be that they are unable to forgive themselves for something.

Whilst the circumstances may differ, the overall negative impact on you is the same:


The Negative and Positive Effects of Not Forgiving

ForgivenessUltimately, forgiving yourself or others means releasing resentment or anger.

An internal energetic block has been created where you can go neither forward or backward with regard to the individual or situation.

This is extremely detrimental for your physical and mental health and well-being (and it has nothing to do with the other person).

Whilst holding onto these negative emotions, the only person being harmed is you.

It does not serve you and it risks your life span along with your overall health and well-being.

In studies, forgiveness has been shown to improve anxiety, sleep, depression and stress. It also enhances your mood, vitality and levels of positivity.

How To Forgive Someone Who Has Wronged You

Forgiving someone can is easier said than done. Forgiveness

It can be challenging when someone has hurt you and there is no apology or sign of humility.

You may have been treated badly by someone who you think had no consideration for your feelings, and you ask yourself: “How can I forgive someone who has treated me so dreadfully?”

Well, there are no situations that can not be forgiven, whether the injury was done by a family member, a friend or colleague. Relationships, employers and even yourself can be forgiven.

How to Forgive Others and Yourself

The following tips will help you to release those negative emotions and move closer to forgiving others:

1. Acknowledge that being unforgiving harms only you. The buildup of negative energy takes a toll on your health and reconciling this internal imbalance will improve your well-being including sleep and stress levels.

2. Make a decision to forgive. The negative energy and emotion you feel is a clear sign that you are not coping well and a release is needed.

3. Allow yourself to feel compassion when forgiving someone, whilst recognizing that forgiveness is for you first, and others second.

4. Release the emotion. The experience has changed you and it is time to continue your growth as you can now express the act of forgiveness.

When forgiving yourself:

1. Taking responsibility for your actions is the first step. Recognize where the issue occurred and your role in it.

2. Forgive yourself. Say it, write it, chant it and feel it. We are all human, and occasionally we do something that is perceived as wrong or inappropriate.

3. If needed, speak to others concerned. Apologize for what took place, but note that you are not seeking their forgiveness, but your growth and ability to move past the issue.


At the end of the day, you are the person responsible for your happiness.

Living a life that is full and healthy, guilt and stress-free is your responsibility. Your health and well-being is your priority.

Do not let being unforgiving and harboring negative emotions prevent you from being the best person you can be.

Author's Bio: 

After secretly living with chronic sleep paralysis for over 30 years, Sheila decided to break her silence about her struggle with the phenomenon and the impact that it had on her life.

Having overcome it, the experience brought about a deeply personal spiritual transformation. She emerged stronger with continually unfolding psychic and spiritual abilities. She has recently launched her book where she shares the methods used to transform her life.

She not only provides Spiritual Life Coaching support and alternative options to those in need of spiritual and personal development, but also helps persons experiencing sleep paralysis. She expands the current thinking around sleep phenomena, bringing those who suffer from disordered sleep patterns to a path of enhanced spirituality. She was born in South London, a teacher at her core. You can see more about her and the services she provides at her website: www.sheilaprycebrook.com