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The Fear Of Being Fabulous – In Love

Written by Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished April 9, 2008
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What’s the number one hijacker of love and relationships? n nSelf-rejection. Self-rejection. Self-rejection. n nWhat do we mean by self-rejection? n nWell, you see, most men and women judge themselves nas being inadequate, unworthy, unlovable. So, when nthey’re in a dating situation or marriage, what do they do? n nThey hold back. They can’t give their all. They ncheat on the relationship they most want. n nThey cheat themselves because they keep voting for ntheir own lack. n nAnd they cheat their partner by not being fully present. n nAnd they cheat the relationship because they’re unable nto be joyous, to make a close connection, to enjoy wild, silly fun, or passionate you know what (that’s to get past your nspam blockers - lol). n nAnd it all stems from a deep seated Fear of Being Fabulous nthat prohibits anything but expertise in playing your self ndown, believing that others will judge you terribly, nhoping that if you hide you’ll get by . . .n nBut love and real romance can’t stand that stuff . . .they nshrivel up and die in the face of that kind of fear . . .n nSo what can you do if this applies to you? n nTrust us that your self-condemning beliefs didn’t come nwith you from the womb, they were learned. AND they ncan be unlearned. Because they simply aren’t true and nyou don’t deserve them. n nSo . . . n nDon’t sell your life away to others’ opinions. nDon’t live with anxiety, wondering who you may be upsetting. nDon’t live with frustrated desires locked up behind all that fear n nIt’s long overdue for you to gift your relationships with the ntrue you, who you really are. n nPull the roots of defeat from your psyche . . . out of your heart and your thinking. . . so that you can be loved for who you really are . . . and be available, truly, truly available for so much that you’ve NOT had the internal permission to let yourself have . . . Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski invite you to nreceive more of what you want by getting their nbonus program "The Power of Receiving" - nJust go to http://www.judithandjim.com/receiving n

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Husband-and-wife psychology team and Internet marketers Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and Jim Sniechowski, Ph.D. pioneered a heart-based approach to Soft Sell Marketing. They’ve taken nthat approach into producing “Bridging Heart and Marketing” - their unique, first-time-ever Internet marketing conference dedicated to the specific needs of the Soft Sell marketing community - for whom the typical hard sell "hype" doesn't fit.
By Soft Sell they’re referring to all the personal growth, healing and life-enhancement providers who market services and products. Unlike typical hard sell tactics, Soft Sell Marketing reinforces a caring and trustworthy relationship between marketers and the prospects and customers they want to attract.

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