We humans invest huge amounts of energy, time and resources trying to create a sense of certainty and security. Uncertainty can terrify us because it threatens the control we believe we have over life, so we cling to those things that are supposed to bring us certainty, and refuse to acknowledge that they will all pass one day. The separated ego has a huge need for certainty and security, but the attempt to isolate anything from the flow of life and make it permanent freezes it into a static shell devoid of vitality and aliveness.

We try to create certainty in the body, in our beliefs, our traditions, our culture, our institutions, our achievements, our children, and our religions. We pay lip service to the truth that life is change, and yet we live as though this was not true. We hold on and we resist, as we try to insulate ourselves from the wave of change that flows through our bodies, our minds and our lives.

As appealing as it may seem, being attached to certainty robs you of your aliveness, your openness to new experience, opportunities for growth, your capacity for creative innovation, your sense of wonder, and the ability to still your mind. To live without guarantees is to take the risk of adventure.

When you enter into a new relationship you have no guarantee how it will turn out. If you start a new business you have no guarantee it will be successful. If you want to be a musician what guarantee do you have that anyone will want to listen to you? When you leave for work in the morning there is no guarantee you will return home that evening. Your life is totally uncertain, and yet every day you are called to live it.

Living with uncertainty allows you to move into a sense of wonder and gratitude for each of life’s gifts that come in the moment. How along is it since you marvelled at the miracle of movement, a smile, sunlight through mist, the gurgling of a mountain stream, a baby’s laughter, the gentle wisdom of an elder, the exquisite sensations of your lover’s touch, the magic of tears, or a warm breeze on your face?

To feel sensations in your body, to be capable of laughter, tears, love, gratitude, joy, or any of a thousand feelings! To be able to think, imagine, create, daydream, compose music, write a letter, plan a business! What an awesome privilege all this is. Just to be alive is such an adventure. Do we really appreciate it all or are we busy chasing after some illusions of security and certainty?

In your childhood you wondered at everything – at the wings of a butterfly, the swirling patterns of flowing water, the lilt of someone’s laughter, the starry night, the hiss and fizz of fireworks, the wagging of a dog’s tail, the wind in the trees, your mother’s tears, the ways you could move your tongue, and on and on. Sadly we lose so much of the sense of wonder as we become adults, yet its loss diminishes our humanity.

In the bible we are told, “Unless you become as little children, you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven.” The endearing qualities of children, such as trust, delight, freshness, curiosity and energy are once again enlivened as you let go of your demands for certainty and control.

Is it possible to live a responsible adult life with the heart of a child?

Do you have the time and the desire to be deeply moved by life?

Can you let go of the past and the future enough for that to happen?

Do you really want to be fully alive in your life?

Letting go of certainty is the invitation to risk it all so that you can be renewed and transformed. Is it worth it to you? We call you to a world of wonder, aliveness, creative vision, purpose and eternal happiness. If you are ready for it you can step into a level of experience that is timeless. You can break the limitations of time, space and the physical sense of life, and enter the atmosphere of eternity.

Your awareness and your spirit are eternal and multi-dimensional. You have access to all the infinite potential and possibility of life. You are made for greatness. The call has gone out, but it is entirely your free choice how you respond. You may turn your back and say, “No, that asks too much. I am not prepared to give it all up for something that I cannot know or guarantee in advance. There is too much at stake.”

That is okay. This is a universe of free choice and your every choice is honoured and respected by life. The only demand is for you to know what you are choosing and why you are choosing it. At the end of it all will your choices stack up? Will you step forward filled with the fullness of life, or will you be left with the nagging sense that you could have done so much more.

Why else are we born if not for full aliveness?

Author's Bio: 

Clement McGrath brings 32 years of coaching and mentoring experience and a wealth of knowledge to his work. Clement has worked in a variety of roles that have all involved supporting people to reach their full potential and live the life of their dreams.

He has conducted his own private practice for 32 years, has facilitated youth work in a non-profit organisation, has been a contracted provider to a major government department, and director of Life Coach Associates since 2001.

After facilitating Life Coach Associates coach training program for 10 years, he recently stepped aside from that position to focus on creating a variety of programmes that are more accessible to a wider audience.

These include, “Relationship Rescue,” “How to Harness Your Yes Power,” “How to Increase Your Energy and Achieve More,” “Find Your voice: How to Communicate Confidently and Effectively,” and “Awakening to Infinity: A Course in Self Realisation.”

He is available for private consultations and public speaking, and can create customised programmes to address the specific needs of groups and organisations.

Clement is a qualified Breath Therapist, and has studied extensively in the areas of ‘Effective Communication,’ ‘Human Creativity,’ ‘Principles of Peak Performance and Success,’ and ‘Mythology and its Modern Applications.’

He has co-authored the book, “The Way to Freedom,” and is currently completing a book on relationships that he intends to have published in 2015.

Clement lives in Christchurch, New Zealand, with his partner Heather Fletcher.

Contacts for Clement are:



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