The question “How did you meet your life-partner?” is one I love to ask couples – especially if they’ve been together for a long while. Most often they light up when recounting their nostalgic reminiscence of how their companionship came to be. It is interesting to listen to various personal recollections of what particular set of circumstances led to their momentous first encounter. I find it fascinating to think about all the choices we make in life that lead us to the next significant experience, meaningful friendship or romantic relationship. If one little detail would have gone differently, then an entire family tree may have never grown into fruition.

When couples muse over their initial point convergence and courtship, it often reignites the magical spark that brought them together. They may fondly remember the strong attraction they first had for one another and the passion they felt during the time when they were falling in love. It can be one of the most magnificent phases in our entire life, as there’s nothing more extraordinary than being in love. And what’s even more incredible, is when someone reciprocates that emotion and adoringly loves you back just the same. It can feel overwhelmingly intense when two people fall in love, as they noticeably radiate joy and bliss whenever they’re together or even thinking about one another. The trick is to keep that passion alive!

One way to stoke the internal fire and keep the burning flame of love and passion blazing is to laugh often, be considerate and respectful of one another, and to continue doing activities that you both enjoy together. Whether you love to see movies, the performing arts, walk in the park hand in hand, creative projects, cooking – whatever activities bring you closer and support your partnership, be sure to make time for them as often as possible. Keeping the energy and juices flowing is crucial in sustaining a long-lasting relationship.

The way I met my boyfriend (of almost four years now) is an incredible story that I’d love to share. One of my most favored pastimes is dancing to live music; hence my previous article about Music & Dancing is Like Sex & Romancing. After dating the drummer of a great local band for a short time, I’d occasionally go out dancing at this fun little venue where they’d often play. One time I was there on a date, however the guy I was with didn’t necessarily appreciate that type of music scene as much as I did. He quietly sat on the side-line, seeming to criticize and scoff all those who were thoroughly enjoying themselves in various ways of liberal self expression. This was of course a red flag as to our level of compatibility. Needless to say, that was our last outing.

I left my date sitting there alone as I eagerly pranced onto the dance floor to ‘shake my booty’. Freestyle, spontaneous flow kind of dancing is my preferred style, as I love to move to the rhythm and energy of the music – intermingling with everyone else around me. I noticed my date watching me for a while, then he walked upstairs to the restroom. My attention turned to an attractive jovial guy dancing next to me. We seemed to be tuned into the same frequency while grooving to the song side by side, exchanging smiles and friendly glances. His high energy level was deliciously infectious. When the song ended, he and I affectionately embraced – the best hug I’d ever received! It was completely impulsive, yet felt totally natural. We hadn’t spoken a word to each other prior to that moment, and I didn’t even talk with him at all afterward. I just smiled and walked away.

This enticing mystery man was on my mind for weeks, as there was something about his sweet smile and high vibration that felt perfectly in synch with what I’d been yearning for in a lover. However I didn’t even know his name or how to possibly reconnect with him. Then I saw him again at a different venue where another one of my favorite local bands was playing. Of course I was out on the dance floor twirling and bouncing around, when we our eyes fixed upon each other in a promising new light. That night we exchanged contact info and have been inseparable ever since. Our first date was a nice long hike and discussion about who we were and what we wanted in life. Later that evening, we went out to a concert and danced the night away.

To this day, we go out to see live music and dance together at least once a week – or as he’d call it ‘shake our bones’. It is what keeps us youthful and passionate for life, as well as for one another. Quite often we reenact our initial conversation, as it was rather engaging and flirtatious. He asked if he could buy me a drink and I said, “No thanks, I’d rather just share yours if you don’t mind.” The qualities I appreciate most about him were evident in our first interactions. He’s clearly honest and genuine, transparent with every emotion and desire, and is undeniably the most zealous, fun and entertaining person I’ve ever known. I am truly fortunate to have found such an adoring, supportive and loving mate.

As a competitive tri-athlete, my boyfriend has such strong endurance, stamina and a seeming endless supply of energy. We both just turned 40, and I’m not as fit as I used to be. It’s hard to keep up with him on the mountain trail, on the dance floor, and everywhere else. I started taking an all-natural daily supplement called Add Lib and have since noticed a tremendous increase in my overall energy. My staying power has greatly improved and I’ve certainly experienced a much happier disposition and internal balance. Add Lib contains plant and mushroom extracts, botanicals and vitamins, and can be purchased on-line.

Author's Bio: 

Allura Joy has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing valuable resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.

Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.

Allura enjoys writing articles to empower women in their sexuality, promoting a healthy fulfilling sex life - with or without a partner! Check out my blog, Straight UP Girl Talk with Allura at: