Are you unhappy with your Single status? How many times have you heard someone say “there is a reason he/she is single you know” or “why is a girl like you still single”. Every time you hear something like this you feel your heart sink.

Inside you secretly fear that you are single because there is “something wrong” with you. That does not feel very good.

Maybe you think you are one of those people who are unlucky in love and that everyone else is happily coupled up and in love while you are left out in the cold.

You start to worry that the deck is stacked against you and you are destined to be single FOREVER.

Perhaps it is because you are “too independent, successful and smart” so people are intimidated by you. Maybe you are too old, or a single parent or you have ‘baggage”. Maybe you have ten, twenty or thirty extra pounds and need to lose weight before you can find love. The list goes on and on. All the reasons YOU can’t have love.

So when you think about your chances for love what do you think?

Cindy was sure she had not found love because of her looks. So when she tried on-line dating she put photos of herself on the internet that were ten years younger and twenty pounds lighter. She went out on some dates but never got asked out a second time. She was sure this was confirmation that she was too fat and too old.

After getting coaching, Cindy finally decided to try one more time, with current pictures of herself doing activities she loved. Guess what! She still had dates- AND the big difference was she had second dates!!

The problem was not her appearance. The problem was she was misrepresenting herself because she believed she was not loveable exactly the way she is!! Turns out her beliefs were a self fulfilling prophecy! They caused her to misrepresent herself online AND when she would go out on a date, she was so nervous about what her dates would think when they saw her that she could not relax and have fun. She was so worried about being rejected that she set herself up to be rejected! Your beliefs about finding love are shaping your present and future and you may not even realize it!

So how do you turn this around?

By remembering that there is no one in the Universe exactly like you.

Take a minute now and identify at least 5 great qualities that you have which make you irresistible to your True Love.
You have gifts, talents and many other special qualities that are unique to you and fit your True Love like a glove. And your True Love is going to love and appreciate you exactly the way you are!

Much Love and Happy Dating!

Author's Bio: 

If you are single and worried that you’ll never find true love or you are losing faith that your special person is ever coming... Pamela Vandervoort will help you find true and lasting love.

Pamela received her master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica and her Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Studies from the University of San Diego.  Pamela can be found conducting workshops throughout California and is the owner of two successful Companies the “Art of Living Consciously” and “My Dating”.

For the last 5 years Pamela has been helping women get over the dating hump, stop wasting time, and find lasting love.