Have you ever been to a party with a friend and discussed the event with one another at the end of the night? Your friend may gush about what a great party it was and how the music and food was amazing. And you may strongly disagree. You may feel as though the people at the party were boring, the music was awful and the food lacked taste. How can two people have such vastly different conclusions?

Your observation may be so different that anyone else would wonder if you two were at the same party. The truth is this happens everyday. Everything in your experience has a judgment or perception based on your individual view of the world and everything in it. These truths are based on strong lifelong beliefs.

Beliefs can cause you to never want to go to another party again—or to attend every party on the block! What this means is that situations aren’t always seen as they are—but instead we see they the way we believe they are. Remember, a belief is a perception or judgment that feels true. But just because you think it is true, doesn’t mean it’s based in fact.

Too often, beliefs cause us to make choices that are not objective and can even be limiting and painful. Instead, it’s helpful to be more consciously aware about why we believe what we do. Being open to deciding to unlearn or relearn beliefs can completely change lives.

Next time you notice you have a vastly different viewpoint from someone, think about it more and ask why. Perhaps the party truly was just a waste of time, but it could also be that you were just tired or not in the mood. Either way, don’t let one negative event change your beliefs forever. Stay open!

Author's Bio: 

Cheryl has been a certified clinical counsellor for over 12 years. Her experience and education are in the areas of counselling, developmental disabilities, mental health and addictions. Cheryl also holds a specialized forensic certification in the areas of high risk sexual behaviours and anger management. In addition, Cheryl also has many years of experience and training as a Spiritual Coach, studying spiritual philosophies under the guidance of Buddhist Monks.

Cheryl uses a diverse repertoire of skills that enable her to guide individuals so that they can foster healthy, positive and sustainable change in their lives and foster the ideal vision of their existence.

Cheryl adds a component of spirituality to her practice in respect to positive and negative energy flow and how our thoughts, emotions, and actions relate to whether we manifest positive or negative influences in our lives. Using her spiritual philosophy for many years with successful results, Cheryl now incorporates this as well as other diverse spiritual aspects in her counselling to help people manifest their ideal lives.

Cheryl has also practices in the area of women's issues and what we can expect in our developing lifespan. Her outcomes have produced positive results, as well as sustainable change.

With two years of nursing, behaviour modification, augmentative communication (the study of non-verbal communication), and three years of pharmacology education, Cheryl is proficient in related areas of overall health and wellbeing.

As well as counselling and coaching, Cheryl also conducts workshops and seminars pertaining to elements of behavioural change as well as motivational speaking.

You can contact Cheryl at www.integritycounsellingservices.com or 416-919-9831