The Power of Choice In Relationships

The power of choice is the "ability" to "select" one thing rather than another. In Joshua 24:15 it says, "Choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."

Some relationships are chosen based on the "other gods." The gods of loneliness, fear of being alone, fear of being rejected and wanting to be accepted. People who have these feelings and fears usually involve themselves with others that appear to satisfy their unhealthy emotional needs. Unfortunately, these relationship choices compound the problem leaving more damage than deliverance, leaving more hurt than happiness, and more pain than pleasure. People making these choices in relationships are usually making their choices from a feeling of powerlessness rather than from a position of power. The power of choice is only effective in the life of the person who is "free to choose."

For the power of choice to be effective in your life, you must be free to choose. Choices are made in your mind. The Bible admonishes you in I Chronicles 28:9 to serve God with a perfect heart and a willing mind. Also, the Bible assures you in 2 Corinthians 3:17 "where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty [freedom]." There is a generosity of grace, you are no longer subject to the bondage of corruption. It is hard to make godly choices without God and it is hard to be liberated if your mind is not free.

To be "free" means to open wide, loose, release, untied, unshackled and liberated. Simply said, your mind is not secluded and isolated because of an "issue of life" or an event that occurred in your life, which has caused it to be in a "shackled" or "locked" position. A position where it is not expanding or growing, it is immovable.

In a shackled position the only thing that your mind can do is function off of the information that was in it when it became shackled. It can't function off future knowledge because the shackles won't allow any new knowledge to come in. It can't function effectively off existing knowledge because the shackles don't allow for growth and expansion; therefore, lessons are hardly ever learned from experiences.

In order to free your mind, you will have to use God's mighty weapons to knock down and unlock the devil's strongholds as the Bible teaches in 2 Corinthians 10:4. The New Living Translations says it clearly, "With these weapons we break down every proud argument that keeps people from knowing God. With these weapons we conquer their rebellious ideas, and we teach them to obey Christ." The King James Version says, "Casting down vain imaginations [thoughts still in the mind]."

You can free your mind by casting down vain imaginations with the weapons of God, which are the Word of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. Your mind must be free in God in order to make the right decisions and choices in life. You are free to choose when you decide to trust God instead of yourself. This gives you the power of choice in relationships.