Dear Friend,

… We all know how powerful words can be and we also know that at times we are able to say words that we later regret. You have probably heard that thoughts are things; well words are more than just things.

When we can change our thoughts with the help of our will, we can’t take back our words.

Today I will share with you some useful tips to make your words count and create that inner peace, confidence not only in ourselves but others too.

It is important to know, how we manifest our words and so be able to look much deeper in the way we can manifest words that are going to serve us well in the future.

… It all starts with energy, your being and what is your constant point of attraction or vibration.

When your dominant being is full of hate, jealousy, selfishness, worry and fear, these are so called negative energies, then your point of attraction will be negative and so your vibration will also be negative. This in return manifests thoughts in your mind in the same way.

During the day, our point of attraction changes, the more influenced we are from the outside, the more likely it is going to change our vibration and point of attraction. Many people are completely unaware what is their point of attraction and I was not aware of it for a long time myself. It takes some practice and with time you will be able to notice, become more sensitive and aware of what you are truly being.

However the good news is, this is all teachable and every one can learn and actually with time master their own energy to the point that outside influences really don’t have any impact anymore.

This is what the greatest spiritual teachers have achieved and you don’t have to go anywhere far my friend to master it.

The first step is to become aware of the energy that you are emanating. Your vibration then manifests results in a form of thought, then followed with words.

So when we have a spell of negative energy, which could be down to an illness, stress, heartache, outside influences, we also become a centre for attraction of thoughts that are not pleasant.

It doesn’t stop here, as soon as we feel discouraged by these negative thoughts we also start attracting similar kind of thoughts from the minds of other people.

We also find many people in our lives appearing who are thinking the same and find involved in many conversations, which are not uplifting, and energy giving.

Why do I go in such a length about this subject? Well when we know more about how our thoughts manifest in our minds, we also will understand much better about how we create the words we share with others and what power these shared words create not only in our lives, but also in lives of others.

We all are different and unique and at the same time so connected, so when we share our words with others, they resonate in others too and so create an effect, which can be very powerful, uplifting, life changing, healing or it can also be devastating even to the worst we can ever imagine.

So when you feel your energy down, you will know that it is better to keep your words to yourself and get back to that amazing high energy place first, before you express yourself through words.

Now let’s look at some tips you could use in managing your words.

5 TOP tips in Managing the Energy of Words:

#1. Self-Control.

Nothing could be more devastating to our own well being and the well being of others than lack of self-control. In order to manage the words you want to say, you have to train your self-control. So how do we do it?

When you are put in a situation, where your response is required and you are tempted to say something negative, try to find the way you can get around that negative statement in your mind first and see the way to say less or say something positive or neutral instead. This is a great exercise to do with people you would normally have not the best relationships with. Self-control gives you great power and puts you in control.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”

- Napoleon Hill

#2. The Quality of Words.

This is a very important tip. The way you can determine quality of your words is quite simple, yet not so many people use it.

Before you want to say something out loud, it is always good to check and ask this question of yourself:

“Is this going to add value to the other person's life?”

This is such a simple question, however it will be a catalyst of consequence in your life my friend. Once you will begin to use this question every time you will open your mouth, it will give you an answer. If what you are going to say, is not going to add any value to the person you are interacting with, you better keep it to yourself. This is not that easy to do, but will become second nature once you practice it in real life.

“We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.”

- Winston Churchill

#3. Creating Influence.

When you look at great leaders, they all talk with passion and spirit behind the words. When you add color, depth to what you say, your words become influential and very powerful. You can see this by looking and listening to great speeches given. These are never without positive, emotional and great purpose behind them. When you want to create influence through words, it is important to get into positive state of mind first.

“Words mean more than what is set down on paper. It takes the human voice to infuse them with deeper meaning.”

- Maya Angelou

#4. The Unspoken Words.

At times people go through life with words unspoken and they are not able to express themselves. I know from my personal experiences, when my mother died and I was only 7, I was craving to hear words of love, care and encouragement. However my father was a person, who was unable to express himself positively. There are many people starving for words of love, care, attention, hope and support. When we don’t share them and are too scared, we are not serving ourselves. These unspoken words will burn inside of us and manifest as illness, stress, and unhappiness. At times we have to open up and share what we can from our hearts.

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.”

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

#5. Words of "Telling the Truth".

You will often hear, when people say something BAD, they say to themselves and others, they are "just telling the truth".

… Well the other day one of my dear friends wrote this on his wall on FB:

“To my younger FB friends: That girl you called a slut in class today, she's a virgin. The boy you called lame, he has to work every night to support his family. That girl you pushed down the other day, she's already being abused at home. That girl you called fat, she's starving herself. The old man you made fun of, cause of the ugly scars, he fought for our country. The boy you made fun of for crying, his mother is dying.

You think you know them.

Guess what? You don't!”

I couldn’t write this any better! :) For some reason we like to think that we know the truth and are obliged to give our opinion. The point is we don’t really know about the other person, we don’t really know what is the point of attraction for them, what are the conditions they live in, they upbringing, challenges they are faced with. So at times when we think, we have to tell the truth, it may turn out the other way. It may be not the truth at all. It is perhaps much better at times to keep the truth to ourselves…

In conclusion, I’d like to say that words matter and they have huge power of influence. You are in charge of this tremendous power my friend and you can truly use it to your advantage every time. You can influence not only your life, but also lives of others; this is how powerful you really are.

Let’s do this together.

Now is your turn, please share your thoughts, concerns or stories in the comment section below. I’d love to hear from you!

Author's Bio: 

Solvita Bennett at is sharing her wisdom with people from different backgrounds to find their Inner Peace and Happiness. With more than 20 years of study and practice of Personal Growth coupled with more than 10 years experience in professional teaching gives her the ability to share her ‘Secrets to Inner Peace’ in a Simple, Easy and Practical way.