The Ups and Downs of Dating an Older Woman

An older man going out with a younger woman is almost a cliché. Why men prefer younger women is no mystery—it has a lot of obvious perks. And what kind of man in his right mind would date an older woman? In this age and time, it is pretty typical for men to go after the young, nubile ones because it has long been socially acceptable. The idea of a man dating an older woman is yet to be accepted, although it is fast becoming a new trend. After all, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore got married, right? Women who date younger men said they appreciated the strength, humour, openness, youth and passion of their partners.

But what do the men get? It could be her air of mystery; or perhaps because of her maturity and independence in terms of money. Some men also prefer being with somebody older because they can be better lovers, with lots of experience under their belt, and they usually don’t play mind games unlike their younger counterparts. There are a lot of pros, as well as cons in dating an older woman. Let’s take a look at it one by one: First, let’s tackle the differences between an average twenty year old woman and one in her early or mid-thirties.

The twenty year-old woman is active, determined and always bent on getting things done. The one in her thirties (and older) has obviously lived a bit more. She has probably learned a lot of lessons in life the hard way, and she’s less likely to be passionate about seemingly insignificant things, like going to dance clubs every Saturday night and get wasted. This can be a life-changing experience for a man in his mid-twenties because with an older gal, he can be laid back and have a peace of mind. Men are hopelessly clueless as to what a woman really wants.

This is where the experience of somebody older plays a major role. A woman several years your senior has been there before, so she has already learned not to waste precious time waiting for you to sweep her off her feet. Instead, she knows just what it is that she wants and will even manipulate you physically and mentally to get it. A woman in this particular age group is more likely to have an established career and is more financially secure. She relies less on somebody to support her, which is a strong stress reliever for any man. Moreover, one doesn’t have to worry about going out with young gold diggers who are only after the money.

However, keep in mind that these gold-diggers do become old gold-diggers, so keep a close watch on your wallet. Another advantage of dating older women is being able to have stimulating conversations about anything under the sun. Also, they know how to value the truer things in life. Unlike their young counterparts, they have learned not to play head games anymore and have less materialistic ideals. And, most importantly, a man doesn’t have to endure senseless topics like what shade of lipstick matches her eyes, and whether her pants make her butt look big. On the downside, however, older women who want to date a young man may just want to have fun with somebody energetic without worrying about having kids.

If you are keen on having a family, you must find out if you’re on the same pole before getting serious in the relationship with her. Sure, she may have great years of sexual experience under her belt, but with it also comes a lot of unresolved issues. Be sure to do a credit personality check with her, so that you’ll have an idea of just how much past baggages she’s carrying with her.