When someone breaks your heart, you have an immediate tendency to do the very worst thing possible. It is almost a knee jerk reaction that often hinders your ability to heal and lengthens the time you'll hurt. This article addresses the absolute worst thing you can do when your heart is broken.

You either are hurt or will have your heart broken eventually. This is the price of love. Yet when it happens to you the absolute worst thing you can do is wall yourself off from people.

Here's the thing; it will always be a person or a group of people that hurt you. This is unavoidable. Our natural reaction is to isolate ourselves from people because we fear having our hearts broken again. This is a mistake of huge proportions.

Here are some common fears when your heart has been broken:

You fear what others think of you.
You are embarrassed over how or why you were hurt.
You fear that people will look down on you.
You fear that no one will understand.
You fear that people will think it is really your fault.
You fear that you'll just be hurt again.
You fear rejection.
You fear people asking you about your pain.
You fear being the butt of gossip or jokes.
You fear the stigma of your pain.

Because of these fears, you do the worst thing possible. You wall yourself off from everyone around you. You see, though it will always be people that break your heart, it will always be people that will help you to heal too. You need others. You need your family, your friends, your church, and your neighbors.

I pastor many people who have had their hearts broken. They all, at first, just want to wall themselves off from everyone around them. This is bad. The Bible says that perfect love casts out fear. I think you'll be surprised at how the people that love you will rally around you. You need people who will insulate you, and allow their love to heal your broken heart.

In the Bible there is a story of Judas Iscariot. This man betrayed Jesus and his friends for a few coins. He never intended anyone to get hurt, I believe. But when he saw that they were going to crucify Jesus, he tried to undo his betrayal. He tried to fix his mistake. But the Jewish council refused him. He had no one now. His betrayal of Jesus had isolated him from those that cared about him, and no one else in authority would hear him. Alone, isolated, and with a heavy heart he went out and committed suicide.

If you isolate yourself from everyone, you will feel as Judas did. You'll feel completely alone, completely isolated, completely abandoned, and rejected. It won't be true, but having isolated yourself from everyone you'll find these feeling taking over your thinking and dominating your emotions. These feelings, on top of your broken heart, are very, very dangerous.

Don't isolate yourself. Find a friend, a loved one, a pastor, a counselor, or a neighbor that cares and let them help you heal your broken heart.

Author's Bio: 

Greg S. Baker is a Pastor, Counselor, and Author specializing in building and strengthening relationships.

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