Skip to content
Article

The 150 Myth: You Actually Know More People than You Think

Written by Auren Hoffman

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished August 13, 2009
Rating pending656 viewsSign in to rate
All the literature and studies that claim that people can only build relationships with maximum of 150 other people is only half true. The "150" number is often referred to as the Dunbar number after anthropologist Robin Dunbar. As covered in Gladwell's Tipping Point and CommonSenseAdvice:
    Dunbar has developed an equation, which works for most primates, in which he plugs in what he calls the neocortex ratio of a particular species - the size of the neocortex relative to the size of the brain - and the equation gives us the maximum expected group size for each species. For humans, the max group size is 147.8, or about 150. This figure seems to represent the maximum amount of people that we can have a real social relationship with - knowing who another human is and how they relate to us.
Dunbar's number is often misinterpreted to mean that you can only remember information on 150 people. But that's not accurate, especially with the help of technology and other social utilities. Traditionally this 150 number meant the average person can only have a deep and meaningful relationship with 150 people. rnBut most relationships aren't deep and meaningful ... and they need not be bidirectional. If you just want to keep up on someone's life (and know the ins and outs of where they are working, who they are dating, and when they are doing, you can easily keep track of thousands of people ... and you do. Even outside of using any external or web utilities, the human brain has the capacity to keep billions of discreet pieces of information. To better understand this, we can look at vocabulary:rnAccording to study by Paul Nation and Robert Waring, most educated people in the United States have a vocabulary of at least 20,000 English words. Each word has a denoted and connoted meaning, many have a story (past tense, plural, etc), and often they invoke a picture. We have relationship with words much like we do with people, yet have a connection with 20,000 of them is not uncommon. rnAnd not only do we keep track of words, we keep track of people. rnAre you a sports fan? When I was in high school I could tell you the stats of almost every major league baseball player. I had a "relationship" with all of them (even though none of them ever heard of me). rnAnd any avid reader of Us Magazine or Pop Sugar has an intimate relationship with hundreds (if not thousands) of stars. Many people know more about Britney Spears than they do about their next door neighbor. Or maybe you are a political junkie. You'll know the ins and outs and the total biographies of Bill Clinton, Winston Churchill, Martin Luther King, and George Washington. rnA person even has direct relationships with thousands of people over the years from your teachers in grade school to members of a softball team to other Intent people. My guess is that the average educated person can track over 10,000 people (though it would be tough to do a study to prove it) and people who are connectors and use internet tools might be able to track 30,000. and yes, that's a lot more than 150! rnBack to Dunbar ... Dunbar's number is probably a minimum, not a maximum, number of social relationships a human can have. If you are in a "tribe", splitting into 150 person units makes sense. But if you are a social human, you can potentially be a part of many "tribes" and build different relationships and experiences in all of them. Back in prehistoric times, we may have only had the opportunity to be a part of one clan, but today we can be a part of many. (special thanks to Vivek Sodera for his edits and research) (if you like this, please send it to a friend) See comments and comment yourself at: Summation

Article author

About the Author

Intent.com Intent.com is a premier wellness site and supportive social network where like-minded individuals can connect and support each others' intentions. Founded by Deepak Chopra's daughter Mallika Chopra, Intent.com aims to be the most trusted and comprehensive wellness destination featuring a supportive community of members, blogs from top wellness experts and curated online content relating to Personal, Social, Global and Spiritual wellness.

Further reading

Further Reading

3 total

Article

The early development of avoidant attachment creates a coping mechanism that forms in childhood. Disconnected parent-child interactions typically trigger this condition. People who develop this attachment style learn to depend on their resources. They avoid deep emotional connections. People with this attachment style want intimacy, yet they remain afraid of becoming dependent on others. Understanding Avoidant Attachment Among the four primary attachment styles, avoidant atta

February 6, 2025

Article

The idea of making yourself more desirable by making yourself less available doesn't make a lot of sense when you think about it. After all, Juliet would have plunged a premature dagger into the heart of her romance with Romeo if she hid in her room rather than go out on her balcony. The end of Sleepless in Seattle shifts from "awww" to "aw, no" if one of the two main characters skips the trip to the Empire State Building. As these examples from fiction show, making yourself

August 16, 2024

Article

Whеn it comеs to attraction, actions oftеn spеak loudеr than words. Womеn havе a uniquе ability to captivatе and еnticе mеn without uttеring a singlе syllablе. Whеthеr it's a subtlе glancе or a playful touch, thеsе nonvеrbal cuеs can crеatе an undеniablе chеmistry that words alonе could nеvеr convеy. In this articlе, wе'll еxplorе fivе unspokеn movеs that womеn usе to drivе mеn wild, tapping into thе powеr of body languagе, еyе

August 10, 2024