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There is No “I” in the Word Parent
In Family, From The Writers Desk, Gratefulness, Healing, Inner Voice, Inspirational, Love, Parenting, Personal Success, Self-Love, Spirituality, Truth on November 10, 2010 at 12:32 pm
In my opinion, the words parenting and selflessness should be interchangeable words in the Roget’s Thesaurus. Think about it for a minute; there is no “I” in the words mother or father… or parent for that matter.

When making the choice to have children, one’s motive might very well be a predictor of the outcome. Any reproductively healthy woman can birth children. That doesn’t mean that every reproductively healthy woman should raise children.

Parenting is the most vitally important responsibility one could ever have. I’ve always believed that my children chose me. They put their ultimate faith in me. That is a supreme honor and a divine gift. It’s been incumbent upon me to discriminatingly select the fruit for the nectar to nurture their souls.

Just as with birds and their nestlings, the true test of parenting comes when our children take their wings and try to fly. Does the child seek independence? Will the child land on their feet if they fall? And most importantly, do they know without a shadow of a doubt that every moment of every day, you are watching from the nest and cheering their efforts on?

No matter how old our children become, they’ll never stop needing their parents’ unconditional love. That is the foundation on which they continue to build their lives. The stronger the foundation, the higher and sturdier they can build. Then someday, if they choose to have their own children, they’ll already have a tried and true template. How wonderful would that be?

As parents we must do our very best. That often means healing our own issues so they won’t become a legacy for our children. I broke the pattern and stopped the legacy…you can too. The rest is in God’s hands; after all, the children we raise are ultimately his.

Love always,


Author's Bio: 

Randi Fine is a native of Baltimore, Maryland who has been living in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida since 2005. She has two adult children: a beautiful daughter and a handsome son, and she has been married to a wonderful man for 22 years.

Her lifetime thirst for artistic, creative expression led her in 2008 to the challenge of writing her memoir, Fine…ly: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny. During the two year process of navigating through the unfamiliar waters of authorship, she discovered for the first time that she truly had a passion for writing. She now devotes herself to writing full-time from her home. By sharing her wealth of experiences, insights, and lessons, she aspires to offer hope, compassion, and understanding to those who searching for answers.

Love Your Life, is a journal that she writes to connect with others who share in her mission of spreading light, love, and healing to the world. Her blog talk-radio show is called, A Fine Time for Healing: A Sanctuary for Your Emotional Wellbeing. She discuss self-help and spiritual life-skill topics that will heal and enhance the life experiences of others.

She is a deeply spiritual person, following an enlightened path of her own design. It is a connection that she faithfully trusts to guide her in every aspect of her life.