Though I'm Doing Everything Right, Why Is My Relationship Falling Apart?
Written by Mika Maddela
It can be very annoying when your relationship continues to struggle though you're doing everything right. What can you do to rescue your relationship when everything appears to fail despite your best efforts?
These are some common questions I often get:
Q: Despite my constant effort to do everything I can to keep my partner happy, my relationship is still in real trouble. Although I'm doing everything right, why is my relationship falling apart?
A: I've observed that in many situations, when this occurs, this is due to your too much focus on your partner and not enough on yourself. It's easy to be misguided by the thought that if your partner's happy and taken care of that, your relationship will grow.
On the other hand, that just is not the case. Your relationship will begin to corrode as long as you go on denying your own desires and needs. What could be the reason? This is due to your constant dependence on your partner just to feel good about yourself.
A flourishing relationship is the outcome of two people coming together who are flourishing individuals themselves. Thus, take the time to work on yourself and do things for you for a little till you can find that balance.
Q: I've tried being open and understanding but why is my relationship falling apart and my partner seems to be disinterested in staying together?
A: Whether you like it or not, your partner sometimes may just be resistant to working things out with you. Remember that you cannot control another person but you can control yourself.
In this situation, do everything to take your own life in an optimistic direction. Follow your dreams and attain for your goals. Usually, it is your own optimism and positivity that can sway an unenthusiastic partner into changing their viewpoints.
However, don't do this as a clever way of trying to control them. This is for yourself. While your partner may decide to come along with you, expect also that that they may not.
Q: I'm constantly working to hold things together but why is my relationship falling apart?
A:That actually is unfair if you're doing all the work, and you can't be expecting something like that to be sensibly sustainable. Tell your partner that the way things are going, the relationship may end.
Find a way for the two of you to have common understanding or better way to sustain your relationship. Consider that your relationship may not last, however, if your partner seems not willing or able to do this.
These are the most common questio
I see people torture themselves with. A relationship consist of two people, two hearts and two different perspective. If you focus on keeping your own individuality and not relying on your partner to constantly make you feel fulfilled, than your relationship has a chance of surviving.
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