Three Steps to Captivate A Girl on Facebook

Some guys don’t do too well in the dating market, so they use the Internet to meet potential lovers. Facebook is a great social networking site that allows you to keep your old friends and make new ones and even possibly find someone to be in a great relationship with. But the truth is, women can still feel weird when approached by a strange guy on the Internet, thinking that the latter is creepy. This is especially true when the girl you like doesn’t know you exist. She may be a friend of a friend, or someone whose profile you saw on a Facebook game or application. Without the right approach, they may think you are some weird person stalking them. But with these secrets on how to talk to a girl on Facebook, you will be sure to charm anyone online:

1. Analyze your connection with her before reaching out to her.

The first thing that usually gets a guy’s interest is a girl’s profile picture. But if you aren’t a friend of hers, and her profile is in private mode, you won’t get to see anything else. It is important to know how you and she is connected before you attempt to send her a friend request or a message. Did you see her from a game that you both play? Are you using the same Facebook application? Did you click on a fan page that she also did? Do you have mutual friends? All these will come in handy for the next step.
When you’ve figured out the link, you can finally send her a friendly hello on her inbox. Speed it up by sending her a friend request too.

2. Understand her reactions and go with it.

You may get a short “Who’s this?” or a “Do I know you?” The first one, obviously, is a little cold and suggests that she may not be interested in hooking up. However, the second one is warmer and you can use it as a springboard to reply to let her know how you are connected. Send her a message to tell her how you are linked and wait until she sends you a reply. Sometimes, you won’t get a reply, but she will add you on her list. When she does, you will finally have access to her entire profile. After you are done ogling at her photos and reading her info page, proceed to step 3 when she is online.

3. Initiate a chat.

Since you are now friends, you will be able to see when she is online. Your first words should be calm and casual, nothing overboard or weird. You can use how you are connected. For instance, if you know her as a common fan of a celebrity, you can say, “I see you also like Chris Brown”. If she has time to talk to you, she will most likely reply with a humorous yet warm line. You are only starting to get to know her, so keep the conversation interesting but not sexual in nature, unless she initiates.

Here are the three secrets on how to talk to a girl on Facebook. The bottom line is, you want to come off as a friend, not as a stalker or a creepy guy. Be open, humorous and engaging, focusing on your common interest. Do not try and make the conversation sexual unless she’s aboard, and try to keep it light until you meet up in person.