Take The Quiz

To find out if you are suffering from relationship codependency, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:

Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own?
Are you drawn to relationships with people who lack stability and/or are irresponsible in a particular area of their lives?
Do you have a compulsive need to help, nurture, fix or control others?
Are you always looking for the potential in others, rather than accepting others as they are?
Do you cling to hope that your partner will change, beyond all evidence of rationale?
Are you attracted to people with addictions?
Do you believe your relationship will be perfect when your partner changes?
Do you feel responsible when your partner doesn’t change?
As a child were you subjected to family dynamics such as repeated anger, extreme rigidity, violence, manipulation or abuse?
Were you raised in an environment of addiction?
Do you feel as if you cannot survive without a love relationship?
Do you strive to please everyone in your life because you believe others only like you when you do?
Do you make excuses for the bad behavior of others?
Are your relationships emotionally or physically abusive?
Do you believe you need to earn love to get it?
Do you believe that you can love someone enough to change or fix her or him?
Have most of your love relationships been painful?
Do you withdraw from people because you don’t want them to know the life you are leading?
Is it hard for you to accept healthy love?
Do you do things for others that they are capable of doing for themselves?

If you answered yes to five or more questions, it is likely that codependent issues are responsible for the relationship problems you are having. This test is for screening purposes only. It is not a formal diagnosis. Please see a qualified therapist or counselor to further evaluate and diagnose you.

Author's Bio: 

Randi Fine is a dedicated pioneer in the narcissistic abuse movement and a narcissistic personality disorder abuse expert. She is a radio show host, author, and Life Issues Counselor living in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. Through her wealth of experience, insight, and wisdom, she offers hope, compassion, and healing to others. Randi is the author of the groundbreaking new book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing and Recovery.As a Life Issues Counselor, Randi specializes in (but is not limited to) helping others work through issues relating to relationship codependency, narcissistic personality disorder abuse, emotional boundaries, letting go of the past, and letting go of unhealthy guilt. Love Your Life is an online journal she writes to spread light, love, and healing to the world. Her blog is read in 180 countries around the globe. She hosts the blog talk-radio show, A Fine Time for Healing: A Sanctuary for Your Emotional Wellbeing. On her popular show she interviews the top people in their fields, discussing self-help and spiritual life-skill topics that heal and enhance the life experiences of others.