Us Moms as Best Pals

Our children are our best buddies when they grow up from their toddler’s stage prior to them reaching teen age where they will see world as original oil painting rather than a fun doodle. This is the time when our children are still clingy to us and feel that their world revolve to us yet not wanting to be carried, to be put to sleep, to be given a bath, and literally to be spoon-fed.

We remember our children’s infant to toddler stage where their motor skills depend on how strong our bones are. Otherwise, carrying or lifting them can crack our spine that would not just make our body drop but may loosen them from our tight grasp. But time passes by that we see them happy when we are around them but would not ask for minor physical help. True. This is the time that they are gaining their independence from us and us from them, as well. And together being the best of Asian art is achieved. Our kids may loosen up from physical help from us yet this is the time that the emotional attachment gets stronger and stronger. This is the time where moms receive so many pecks of kisses and loving hugs in contrast to previous years that they barely reciprocate when being kissed by us, moms. This time, they just want to have fun with us while keeping a little of their independence. The feeling is like you have a friend that you cared so much about and you just love being with him and fun is not complete at all without him and goes the other way around.

Bonding with our children should not be treated as moral obligation or worst as psychological approach. But it is better that we feel this by heart until such time that we feel that fun is not all complete without our best buddy on our side. Moms, to exclude no one, somehow feel that the love they feel for their children derive from moral obligation to love them and that rearing them is a no-choice decision but this whole thing changes when we make our children our buddies. After all time is short and before we knew it, the least thing they wanted to wake up with is us on the other side of their bed and we are also the last person they want to interfere when they are already building relationship with other people. The world of our children will become bigger someday. They will have many relationships along the way. But it is not bad at all if they remember that once they had the best buddies of all for all have moms but not all get the chance to have the best pal and this thought is what will make our children a potential candidate for best of Asian art.