There are few exceptions to this rule and at the moment I can’t even think of any! If you’re faking it in any area of your relationship it’s only a matter of time before it comes back and bites you.

Once you’ve faked it, you’ve painted yourself into a corner with only two options: staying in the corner or walking away and messing up the paint.

Here’s a really good example of making things hard for yourself by faking it.

Have you ever been with a man you really liked but who you didn’t feel connected to sexually? When you’re with him you just don’t feel the chemistry. So rather than telling him you’re having a problem feeling sexual, you decide to fake sexual pleasure instead. You really like him, but have to pretend he’s a great lover and that you’re sexually satisfied. But there’s a catch, as you continue to see him, you have to pretend to enjoy sex every time.

Now your options are limited. You can’t tell him you have a problem without making him wonder what’s been going on with you all along. So the only other alternative is to keep going on with the sham until you can’t stand it anymore.

There’s relationship advice that will tell you to “fake it till you make it,” but in this case and in many more; it’s like using a band aid to cover up a deeper problem.

In the situation I mentioned, there is only so long you can fake it, eventually you’re going to want more from your intimate experience with him but it will very touchy when you ask for it. He will wonder what’s you’ve been feeling and when the idea that you’ve been faking sexual pleasure gets into his head it will hit him hard. It will be a blow to his ego and his manhood. The fact that you’re now being honest with him will be unimportant. He’ll only be able to focus on the fact that you lied, and it will cut him deeply. You’ve taken away from him the opportunity to do better and work on the problem with you. He will begin to question your love and your loyalty.
Relationship Advice you can trust: When a man learns you’ve been dishonest in one area, he’ll begin to doubt you in all areas.

Let’s be honest, you fake it because it’s the easy way out; the path of least resistance. The more you find you can get away with, the more tempted you are to avoid discomfort and make things easier. Rather than have the courage to tell him the truth in the beginning and do something about it, you avoid the truth out of fear.

There are many fears you have to face if you’re going to be honest: fear of being judged, being unkind or being wrong. But none of the those fears is worse then the pain you cause by betraying a man who cares about you.

My best relationship advice is to be honest in your relationships about who you are and what you need from the beginning. If you have issues about sex, money, or lifestyle address them from the start. If you fake it you’ll end up not only hurting your man, but you will be paying the price of living a lie and in the end not having the relationship you really want.

Author's Bio: 

Virginia Clark (aka Virginia Feingold Clark) has coached hundreds of woman by helping them to uncover their blocks to love and marriage. With over 12 years of experience as a successful Certified Hypnotherapist, she is an expert on the power of the subconscious mind and its ability to transform one's love life.

Virginia met her husband in her mid 40s, and has now has been married to the love of her life for twelve years. Her years of struggle and desperation as a single woman have given her a unique insight into what it takes to find your true love and create the marriage of your dreams.

Her past experiences as an actress and founder of a theatre company in Boston and the owner of her own successful personnel agency in Los Angeles has given her insight into both the corporate world and the Arts. She was also a leader in a spiritual community where she gave guidance on love and life problems for 19 years.

She holds a M.F.A. degree from Brandeis University in Theatre and was chosen to be one of the Pioneering Nine — the first women ever invited to attend Dartmouth College. They would later be hailed as the women who sparked the movement that turned the entrenched, all male Ivy League school co-ed.

Virginia’s direct approach and natural intuition gives her clients just what they need to create powerful breakthroughs in their romantic relationships.

She works with women who are in troubled relationships as well as with single women who are looking for their Mr. Right. She helps women find true love throughout the United States as well as internationally.