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Want to Have Real Romance?

Written by Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished April 23, 2008
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There are two basic and very simple ways to make your relationship the most nfabulous it can be. What are these tips? You will be delighted to know that nthey are so simple, you can begin to experience their magic immediately.n nFirst, as basic and common sense as it sounds - you have to remember that nyour partner or your spouse is not you. That’s right — not you. He or she is na person unique and very different from you, no matter how much you have in ncommon. When you really appreciate this basic fact, you can accept and value nthat the one you love will have all sorts of different behaviors, feelings, nresponses, and desires that are very different from yours - and unless they nare abusive or destructive - these differences are not and cannot be WRONG! nOnly different.n nAfter all, wouldn’t life be boring if you were married to someone who was nexactly like you? There’d never be any surprises, nothing new and exciting ncould occur and you wouldn’t have any help in learning new things about nyourself or about life. That’s not a fabulous relationship at all. Yes, it nwould be predictable, but is that what you REALLY want?n nWell, if your answer is “No” just begin to tell the one you love how much nyou appreciate all the many ways he or she is different from you. Make sure nyou really do appreciate it. And become more aware of how these ndifferences, while enriching your relationship, can help towards making your nwhole life more fabulous!n nNow love can be an adventure of discovery instead of a prolonged and painful nwar over who’s right and who’s wrong. After all, the only way you can ever ntruly love someone is to love them for how they’re different from you, if nyou only love how they’re like you -- then you’re only in love with yourself!n nThe second tip is that one of the most loving and respectful things we can ngive to one another is the simple act of curiosity. Never take your partner nfor granted. That is the death of a fabulous love. Never assume that you nalready know how your spouse is going to think or feel about something. Ask. nFind out. Become curious. Being curious and really listening, really nlearning about your loved one, can be the greatest aphrodisiac there is. n nAfter all, isn’t it a thrill to have someone really want to get to know you, nwant to recognize and value you for who you truly are? Well, that’s the nmagical power of curiosity -- you get to be loved for who you really are! nAnd, after all, isn’t that what we really want? And as you and your partner nget to know each other better, you can both discover and embrace those ndifferences that make your relationship truly fabulous.n nSo don’t forget. Be curious. Open your heart to wanting to get to know nyour partner better. And, after all, for your relationship to be truly fabulous, nyou DO need to continually get to know your special sweetheart -- better nand better. n nSo start practicing these tips today. Your fabulous relationship is nright around the corner of your curiosity and respect for differences! nnnJudith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski invite you to nreceive more of what you want by getting their nbonus program "The Power of Receiving" - nJust go to http://www.judithandjim.com/receiving

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Husband-and-wife psychology team and Internet marketers Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and Jim Sniechowski, Ph.D. pioneered a heart-based approach to Soft Sell Marketing. They’ve taken nthat approach into producing “Bridging Heart and Marketing” - their unique, first-time-ever Internet marketing conference dedicated to the specific needs of the Soft Sell marketing community - for whom the typical hard sell "hype" doesn't fit.
By Soft Sell they’re referring to all the personal growth, healing and life-enhancement providers who market services and products. Unlike typical hard sell tactics, Soft Sell Marketing reinforces a caring and trustworthy relationship between marketers and the prospects and customers they want to attract.

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