How often do you use your past as an excuse to justify your present life situation or your behavior? Do you use your upbringing as an excuse to indulge in negative habits? Do you use a failed past relationship as an excuse not to trust anyone? If you are fully aware of where your excuses are coming from, you no longer have an excuse for making excuses! It is time to step up to the plate and take personal responsibility for what you are doing or not doing. No one is twisting your arm or holding a gun to your head. The only person “making” you and your life the way it is, is you. Yes, you heard me correctly! It’s all YOU! You are the one who has control, not the past, and not anyone from the past.

You make excuses because you are afraid to face the truth. You are afraid to look in the mirror and admit where and who you are is because of the choices YOU made, no one else. You make excuses to avoid the life that is right in front of you. Believe it or not, the truth will set you free. When you stop making excuses and starting taking personal responsibility, you will begin to feel empowered. You will start to feel a sense of freedom because all those excuses will no longer be holding you back. You will be able to move forward in every area of your life. Oddly enough, you will find there was nothing to fear.

Living with excuses is the same as resisting all that life has to offer. You are resisting what is and the present moment because you are too focused in the past. If you use the pain of a past relationship as an excuse not to trust someone, you will only be hurting yourself. You will find yourself avoiding relationships. Is that really what you want? We have all experienced some of the same things in our lives. What is important for you to know is that you always have a choice as to how you react to that experience. You can choose to accept it for what it is and move on or you can choose to use it as an excuse and remain stuck.
Take some time to think about your life, where you are, and why you make the choices you do and then ask yourself these questions: Am I taking personal responsibility or making excuses? How often do I find myself making excuses? Am I blaming someone else for my current life situation? Am I living the life I want to live? Am I moving forward or standing still? What am I going to do about it?

Nothing you have or do is because of anyone other than you! Once you come to the realization that YOU are in control of your life and there is no need for excuses, you will begin to live a joyous and abundant life! So, what is the first step you are committed to taking right now?

Author's Bio: 

Cindy is a Personal Development Life Coach. Her knowledge and expertise comes from 20 years of study, personal life experiences, and from working as a community volunteer and mentor. Cindy coaches people toward finding true happiness and life fulfillment, guiding them along their own unique path. To learn more about Cindy go to or visit her personal blog at