Do you know how many people are unhappy with their lives, health, or relationships and yet do nothing about it? Do you know how many people KNOW what they need to do and still do nothing about it? Almost everyone I have ever known has had a pile of complaints about one thing or another and yet only a select few have taken control in an effort to improve those things they are unhappy about. The others choose to grumble about it over and over again.

Why is this? I have had to ask myself that question many, many times because I too used to be one of those people who knew what I needed to do and yet never did it. For me, and I believe for many, it all comes down to fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, even fear of getting what you want. It’s silly when you really think about it, but yes people are afraid of getting what they want because they then fear losing it. There are also those who like to be in the limelight, who like the attention for that which is going on in their lives and they fear losing that attention.

My biggest fear at that time in my life was getting what I wanted and that was happiness. I was literally afraid to be happy because I was afraid I would eventually lose that happiness. But hear me out. There is nothing at all to be afraid of. When you take the time to think about all that is and all that could be, why would you choose to remain where you are? There are unlimited possibilities out there just waiting for you, for me, for everyone. “The only thing to fear is fear itself” and that is the God’s honest truth. I am, now, today, more afraid TO fear than of anything else in life, even death. Fear will keep you where you are. Fear will destroy your life. Fear will take away the good you do have and leave you with nothing. Fear is nothing more than a negative thought. If things are bad, how could at least TRYING to make them better make things worse? If you are afraid of failing, it is only because YOU CHOOSE to look at it as failure. Failure is only a state of mind. It is a belief within yourself that you can change at any given moment. If you are afraid of the unknown, shouldn’t you then be embracing it in all its glory? The unknown may be unknown but if you allow life to show it to you I can guarantee it will be magnificent! And, besides all of that, if you find what you want through the process of letting go of your fear, you will then know how to let go of your fear so there will be no more excuses for living in fear.

Truth be told, if you live in fear of this or that there is no doubt it will be delivered to you time and time again. If you are successful in “getting” what you want and yet carry the fear of losing it, eventually you will lose it. What you “put out” has no choice but to come back to you. Think of your thoughts and feelings as a boomerang. A boomerang is a “thrown tool” that has the design and power to come back to you. Your thoughts and feelings are no different; they are very, very powerful tools and when “used” correctly can bring you whatever it is that you so desire. When you launch positive thoughts and feelings out into the Universe, positive “things” will most assuredly be returned to you. When you launch negative thoughts and feelings, they too will most assuredly be returned to you.

If you find yourself unhappy about one thing or another, take a time out and ask yourself what is holding you back from changing and/or accepting this particular situation? Lay it all out piece by piece and be honest with yourself. What is it that you fear so much? What is keeping you from moving forward, being happy and/or getting what you want and desire? Is someone else standing in your way? What changes do you need to make in order to remove the “unwanted” from your life experience? What is the FIRST step you need to take?

I am a firm believer in that, when we face what we fear with a positive attitude, it will, almost immediately lose its power over us. You cannot give your power over to fear because in the end it will eat you alive. So take the first step and just let go!

Author's Bio: 

Cindy is a Personal Development Life Coach. Her knowledge and expertise comes from 20 years of study, personal life experiences, and from working as a community volunteer and mentor. Cindy coaches people towards finding their own personal power through inner awareness; guiding them along their own unique path toward true happiness and life fulfillment. To learn more about Cindy go to Personal Blog go to