“What is right about you?” is a basic resiliency strengthening question. What is it you believe about you? Do you believe that you are basically lovable and capable? Do you believe that on the whole you do the best you can with the resources available to you? What do you believe about your partner, your children, your co-workers and your friends?

Take a look at these questions and your decisions from a holistic perspective:

What do you do for your PHYSICAL well-being?
Do you:
• Keep safe?
• Wear a seat belt?
• Drive within the speed limit?
• Drive with minimal distraction?
• Do not smoke?

Do you rest daily?
• Get ample sleep?

Do you eat and drink well?
• Eat breakfast daily?
• Eat at least 6 fruits and veggies?
• Drink less than 1 1/2 ounces of liquor or 8 ounces of wine per day?
• Drink 6 to 8 glasses of water?

Do you exercise?
• 20 minutes or more, 3 x week?
• Lift weights 3 times a week?
• Own and walk a dog?

Do you prevent physical problems?
• Have an annual medical?
• Brush and floss teeth daily?

What do you do for your EMOTIONAL well-being?
Do you:

• Notice emotions in your body?
• Identify and share at least basic feelings—glad, sad, mad and scared?
• Laugh and cry?
• Do a fun activity at least weekly?
• Develop your sense of humor?

What do you do for your MENTAL well-being?
Do you:

• Have a developed internal locus of control?
• Learn continuously?
• Use your right brain (creativity) and left brain (logic)?
• Think logically yet optimistically?
• Manage your finances and keep your agreements?
• Have an awareness of your negative self talk so you can better replace it with supportive words?
• Say “yes”, “no” and “I’ll think about it” assertively?
• Do a meditative activity regularly?

What do you do for your SOCIAL well-being?
Do you:

• Invite cooperation?
• Work overtime less than twice a month?
• Participate in workplace and family meetings?
• Delegate where possible?
• Manage fair labor distribution at work and home?
• Have friends who care and listen?
• Avoid negative gossip?
• Volunteer at least twice a month?

What do you do for your SPIRITUAL well-being?
Do you:

• Aim to attain a sense of peace?
• Have some personal sense of the meaning of life?

Can you identify when you began using these resiliency strengthening habits? Perhaps you discovered through a past struggle you uncovered, what is right about you or perhaps you began a process of self-righting to increase more of what is right about you. Let me know.

Resources: Real Age by Dr. M. Roizen and The Resiliency Advantage by Dr. A. Siebert Ryan

Author's Bio: 

Patricia Morgan is an author, speaker and workshop leader Woe to Wow—Solutions for Resilience.
Contact her to help your people become stress hardy at 403-242-7796, patricia@SolutionsForResilience.com or www.SolutionsForResilience.com