Narrow Mindedness is the Root of Jealousy!
Any negative thought arising in us towards anyone is usually due to our narrow mindedness. We not only think negative, but very often we spread this negativity to others too!

For example, one young girl says to her friends, “Priya gave her birthday party at an ice cream parlour. But I will give mine at a 5-star hotel because my Dad is rich and successful.” Such naïve statements show nothing but her narrow mindedness.

One thinksI am showing off my wealth and status, but does not realize that this is what leads to jealousy and it will burn your heart one day.
It is very important to be aware of the symptoms of narrow mindedness so that going ahead, we do not develop jealousy to the extent that we do not hesitate to even hurt the other person. The common symptoms of narrow mindedness are listed below:
×You dislike when that person achieves more accomplishments than you.
×You don’t like it when everybody applauds that person.
×If any damage happens to that person or if he falls down then you feel bestial happiness within and you wish that this keeps reoccurring.
×Whatever that person does, you want to do the same thing.
×You keep seeing faults in the person and you start disliking him.
×You start saying negative things about that person to everyone.
×There is a constant burning inside you.
Majority of us may have experienced at least one of these symptoms. But which one is the primary one? How does jealousy begin?

Comparison initiates Jealousy!
If someone has better things than us, we immediately start comparing. This could later lead to intense jealousy. Example, a housewife says to her husband, “Do you know Uncle bought a 2-bedroom apartment? Let us buy a 3-bedroom apartment now. There are 4 people living in our home, so we need more space.” And when Uncle comes home, the housewife humiliates him and says, “My husband earns a lot. So we are about to buy a 3-bedroom flat now. We cannot live in a 1-bedroom anymore. We need more space.”

Once there was a student. His best friend used to come first in the class and was very brilliant as compared to him. Hence, the student was very jealous of him. At the time of exams, he locked up his best friend in a bathroom so that he cannot appear for the exams. Being marked absent in the exams, his best friend failed and lost his one academic year! Just imagine, how dangerous is this jealousy?! Luckily, the best friend maintained positivity and continued his academia with a great spirit. And now he is a very successful businessman! But if he would have been of a weak mind, he could have committed suicide or would have got depressed.

So, what should one do to avoid jealousy?
1.Be Satisfied with Your Situation
Accept your current position and try to remain satisfied with it. When you keep this inner satisfaction, you will never be sad or negative. If you have lesser things, don’t complain. Rather, stay positive, work harder and pray to God for strength. Accept that this is a result of my own past karmas and I want to pass through the situation, remaining happy and content. I don’t want to cause slightest hurt to anyone because of my past karmas.

Appreciate and See the Person’s Positives
Always see the positive of others and appreciate their qualities. When you do that, you will automatically gain their qualities; and hence you will not have to become jealous! This is how Nature is! The more you appreciate, the more Nature will give you. So always behave heartily with others and remain sincere in your work.

Apologise For Your Jealousy
If you see yourself suffering from any of the symptoms of narrow mindedness, apologize to the people affected by your behaviour. For example, if you’ve been jealous of your friend, remember your friend and pray to the God residing in Him, “Dear God, I am sorry for being narrow minded. I will not be jealous of my friend again.

Instead, I will work harder and remain satisfied with whatever results I get. Please give me strength to not hurt my friend or anyone else, due to my nature of being narrow minded and jealous of others.” Continue doing this small prayer daily, remembering every person who got hurt because of you. This will eventually uproot the jealousy inside you, forever.

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization