What to Do If Your Ex Ignores You

If it seems like everything you do falls flat on it's face when you try to get your ex's attention, check out these few common questions about why your ex might be ignoring you and some simple things you can do about it.

Q: Why does me ex ignore me? What's the cause?

A: This may not be a clear-cut answer, but I'll do my best to break it down for you. Many times your ex will just completely go cold because they need space away from the relationship and away from you to just sort out their life and rethink what they want in life. By reaching out to them and explaining or telling them how significant they are to you, you're depriving them that space that they want.

This will just make them feel like you're not paying attention to their request and they feel like they have to pull back even more from you just to get that space that they want.

This can bring about a no-win situation and you might try even harder to get through to them and they just keep pulling back more and more.

And so, the dance carries on until your ex fully pushes you out of their life.

Q: So, when my ex ignores me, what should I do?

A: What you want should do is give them that space they need. When you do this, they can say that you respect them and are honoring their need for a little time to themselves. When giving them space, improve your self-esteem and confidence. If you've freshly gone through a breakup, chances are high that you need to work on your self-esteem (most people feel pretty lousy after a breakup).

Breakups can make us feel upset and disbelieve many things we used to believe were right about ourselves and the world, general. Take some time to boost your confidence. Your ex will be able to tell the difference and be impressed the next time he or she sees you.

Q: If my ex pays no attention to me, am I supposed to just pull back? When should I contact them again?

A: It's recommended that you don't contact your ex for about a month. This offers you enough time to heal from the wounds of the breakup and to build up your own confidence and self-esteem.

It's actually normal for your ex to begin missing you during this time. It's possible that they try to contact you. Don't worry either if they don't. Simply wait for the month period to end and then call them and ask them to catch up over coffee. The two of you have been up to a lot in one month, for sure.

Also, catching up will help you evaluate yourself to see if you still want to be back together with your ex. This is what I recommend for what to do when you ex doesn't pay attention to you. Take time to concentrate on yourself and if your ex reaches out, that's fine. Nevertheless, if you still want to see your ex again, call them up in about a month and reawaken that relationship.